Rehearsal dinner cash bar- tacky or not?

We diy’d our rehearsal dinner in a Suite at the 🏨: Baked 🍝, 🥗, Costco Rolls,🍺, and🍹(Tea) using to-go Plates, Cups, and🍴.

Cups, Fancy Plastic🍴, and Cups were from Wedding supplies.

DH prepared the 🍝 and I got the Salad, Grape 🍅es, Croutons, and Salad Dressing.

We are doing a backyard bbq nothing too fancy no need to spend lots of extra money .

Totally not necessary to have an open bar at your rehearsal! I honestly don’t think the cost would probably be worth it unless your guests are planning on having a lot to drink the night before the wedding.

I have zero plans to provide alcohol at my rehearsal dinner. Cash or open bar. If anyone wants to drink afterward, they can go hang out at a bar later and pay for their own drinks.
We will have soda.

We did an open bar at our rehearsal dinner and in hindsight it was a bad idea! Lots of people got really drunk and there were a few issues as a result the night before. Not something I would have ever considered would have happened, but guests really let their hair down! So much so, my sister was sick the day of the wedding 🙈 in hindsight I would have just left it until the wedding day to do an open bar ( which we did also) just something to consider!

Definitely not tacky, especially if it’s out of your budget. You do what you can financially afford and don’t listen to anyone else who tells you otherwise!

We're going to have a casual get together at a restaurant and order pizzas and some pitchers of beer. If people want cocktails, they are on their own. Not having a formal rehearsal though just going to walk through with whoever happens to be around.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. However, a host is also well within standard etiquette to determine the size portion of number of servings of anything offered, whether alcohol or meat or dessert. As long as water is always available, it is fine to offer all a dinner one chance to order at the host's expense. No more. Not a cash bar after. Simply, until dinner is over, no more drinks other than water. Or water and coffee or tea. If a guest said, that sirloin was great, but bring me 2 more, I am still hungry, he would be told that the hosts had allowed one per person, sorry. And it would be monumentally rude for that person to say, well I will pay $15 for each extra, and order it . And equally rude for a host to say, you can have 2 more steaks, as long as you pay for them. Or extra desserts, or anything else. Alcoholic drinks are no different. Have only what the host is willing to pay for, available. No more. What people do later in the evening is up to them. As a bride, I would think you would consider the next day, in person and in pictures, and not want your wedding party having lots of drinks starting at dinner. It affects behavior, and looks. Why offer more than one?

That’s totally not tacky at all. We were thinking of doing catering at our house and people can BYOB. We are having an open bar wedding so I know our wedding party and whoever else attends would understand