Rehearsal dinner birthday.

So you would have a large birthday party the night before the wedding?? That seems like a bit much, honestly. First of all.. I wouldnt want to feel tired and exhausted on my wedding day. If she invites people to the rehearsal/birthday that aren't going to the wedding, well, that could be awkward. Of course its natural to celebrate your birthday, but there is already so much going on. I would probably just have a more low-key birthday lunch or something, then the rehearsal dinner, then save the celebrating for my wedding day

My original plan was to get my nails done with the bridal party and that's it but FH just told me about this plan and how she is excited and my face was like 0__0. He really thinks i should just let her because its her way of contributing and feeling involved and my mom kind of agrees so i'm caught in this web. Plus if she is hosting, doesn't she get a say? We wouldn't invite anyone who isn't invited to the wedding. Or should i say i wouldn't invite anyone to celebrate my birthday who isn't close enough to be invited to the wedding.

Well then, I guess I dont see what will really be all that different than just having a fun rehearsal dinner and then announcing that its your birthday and everyone singing to you and having a cake or something. If the guests would be invited to the rehearsal dinner anyway.. I feel like spreading the word that its also your birthday party will make people feel like they should be bringing an extra gift, but I don't know. No harm in also honouring your birthday at the RD. Does she want to add or do anything different?

Also... you said maybe bridal party for first 2 hours and then everyone after? that seems weird. You would invite people to celebrate you birthday AFTER the dinner? I dont really get it. I mean.. by all means acknowledge your birthday, but if people are already going to be there celebrating with you - why can't they just celebrate your birthday as well?

It doesnt make sense to plan a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner FOLLOWED by a birthday party. That is so much going on and you will be so tired for your wedding.

I didn't even think about the gift part. That just makes it more weird. RD was supposed to be family and Bridal Party. She still wants that at the beginning. Basically from church to home for RD. Then anyone else who doesn't fall under that umbrella would/could come, lets say at 8pm and just hang out. It will be just food, drinks and pandora after RD and anyone who wants to come can come. I'm definitely not going to let people know its my birthday until a few days before that way it doesn't sound "official". I just don't want to do too much and it's starting to look like it will be.

Well , its up to you... but if it were ME.. I wouldnt want to start a casual party at home where people can just drop in to drink the night before my wedding. I would want to relax and rest up for the big day. it just seems all to busy.. But only you know what you are up for