Regretting moh

It sounds like you had some red flags that maybe she wasn't the best fit for MOH, so if you don't mind me asking, why did you pick her over your other friends? Are the reasons why you picked her, no longer valid?

Personally, I have watched many many MANY friends get married and they frequently lose touch with at least 1 bridesmaid. We often pick our party because we love them, without considering all aspects of their personalities and what our expectations are. If you don't feel like she reciprocates your friendship, do you think there's a possibility that she won't end up attending your wedding? Destination in Jamaica is a big ask (also a destination bride here!) and if you feel like she is barely interested in your daily life, I think you may consider that she could fall through the cracks here.

I would sit her down and express all of this, and be very clear about what you want out of the conversation. Have instances to provide examples of what you're explaining, and stay calm/be kind!

I'm glad you're going into it with an open heart, because I feel like destination brides get a lot of hate for asking so much of the guests/party. I would honestly just try and let it go, maybe pull back a little bit from the friendship and allow her to make the plans with you going forward. This can always be something you guys can hash out after the wedding when feelings aren't as high, which is actually something that happened between me (MOH) and my bride last year. I too felt like our friendship had run its course, and I felt like she did not really care about me much other than being her MOH to do everything for her (including being her unpaid day of coordinator...)

Give yourself some space to sort out your emotions and decide what it is that you really need/want from her, and consider having that conversation before the wedding if you think you guys can have a heart-to-heart without it getting out of hand. Sometimes the "run its course" feeling can be resolved with a deep h2h!

Your friendship sounds very much like my best friend from college. She gets mad hurt about things I stopped doing for her, but that shes never done for me. I think you're right, the friendship has ran its course. I'm in the same situation and don't really know how to end it. I think you made the mistake of asking her to be your MOH, if you take it back now it will be for sure the end of the friendship. I think you should probably have an honest conversation and tell her how you feel. If things don't change then tell her you don't want her to be your MOH and move on. It sounds harsh, but do you really want to be looking back at your wedding years from now regretting your MOH? you want to share that with someone that truly cares and she sounds like she's full of herself.

I have a “best friend” that I have considered letting go of the friendship SEVERAL times because all I want to do is spend time with her but I have only seen her once every two years and every time I ask to hang she says she’s busy and then I see her on Instagram posting pics of her out with other friends. It really hurts me so much. This pattern has been going on for 10+ years but I’m still friends with her and just recently I had a crisis and she talked me through it and was truly truly there for me. It made me question what friendships are and what makes a good friendship, etc. I think the answer is there are HUNDREDS of types of friendships and sometimes they don’t fit what we want at certain points in our lives. If I were you I would hold off on confronting her, people can surprise you and come through when you really need them. She might not be in the best mental space to be supportive of your wedding plans but that doesn’t mean the friendship should be over.