Regrets

I would say ELOPE but like you said, it sounds like you've spent a lot more money already than my FH and I did when we decided to scrap it and ELOPE.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, and to my ignorance I don't know what HMUA stands for, but I don't think I'd ever allow someone to make themselves part of the wedding party. Can't do anything about it now though, it seems a bit far along.

I wish you loads of luck and just remember this day is about you and your FH, nothing else matters.

My regrets:

Rushing into the wedding planning process and talking to others about it thinking I had it all figured out when I really didn't, but in the end it all works out and my FH and i couldn't be happier. Just the thought of all of that stressing and talking with other people, I regret it. I wish I would have just not told anyone, or simply said "we're working on it" instead of answering everyone's questions and having their questions push me into doing more and more until I cracked, ha!

I'm mostly irritated with my wedding party. At this point, I'd rather stand up there alone!

What was it that you found?

1. You set your budget, and bought a dress within that budget. You love your dress, so try not to stress the cost. It is your one and only wedding dress!

2. Weddings are expensive no matter what. I am paying near $13,000 for our wedding, and it is not a destination wedding.

3. Can you just pay for your hair & makeup and leave it up to your bridesmaids whether or not they want to utilize the service. That is what I am doing. Some of my bridesmaids plan to do their own, and some of them plan to use the professionals. Either way is fine, because I can't afford to pay for everyone's.

4. YES! There are things I am regretting. Like: forgetting to take things into consideration when making our guest list, asking certain people to be bridesmaids out of obligation (I didn't want a bridal party either, but FH did...so I gave him what he wanted), and not losing the weight I wanted to lose.

Oh no :/ what's going on :/ I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

Aww, thank you! It was a roller coaster for a few days but once we sifted through the actual logistics, it was the obvious choice. Our family has been SO supportive- even my mom who took up half the previous guest list. They just get that it's what's best for us and are behind the choice and STILL excited. The weight lifted is enormous!

I understand. My husband and I eloped and we knew we wanted to have a small wedding in order for our families to meet. Well, his mom is not coming to the wedding due to health issues and my dad decided he didn't want to come for no reason, it's kinda funny.

We don't have a wedding party, I never wanted one but somehow I ended up telling my niece to be "the bubbles girl" but her mom is not with my brother anymore and she is a very negative person. It wouldn't surprise me that after I got my niece a dress and everything her mom didn't let her go.

About your bridesmaid. If they don't want to pay for their hair and makeup, then tell them they can do it themselves.

I'm afraid of having regrets. Basically I am worried and stressed 24/7.

Right now, our wedding is in my FH's hometown (about 45 minutes from the airport). The food is being catered by my parents (who have catered three weddings in the past and have promised they will be present during the reception and not doing dishes early). My dress was a thrift store find that I fixed up. I've lost 30 lbs since I got engaged, but I'm not feeling nearly the weight I want to be, and I'm worried that the dress will be harder to alter since I bought it so early.

I'm also stressed about the fact that I think we will be trying to move just a week before the wedding.

The only things I KNOW I won't regret are getting married to him and spending nearly $4k of our $7k budget on the honeymoon, lol.