Regrets

I'm getting married in 14 days. I regret being so laid back. 😂 I feel like I've been put on the back burner with my coordinator, venue, and hotel (all same parent organization) because I'm not a dhead. We have our rehearsal dinner at the hotel in 13 days and I can't even get a menu to make our choices. I can't wait until this is over! I had a call with my photographer yesterday and realized we have no idea of a timeline. Today I'm going to speak with the DJ. I've talked to him via email a few times in the past month or two, so he's not a ghost. I also have to reach out to my florist. I feel kinda foolish. Like why am I calling my florist 2 weeks out. Why isn't this man who collected my money calling me? Ugh. 2 more weeks.

I regret not saying no to my bachelorette. My FSIL and friend (bridesmaids) chose to throw me a “bach” the day before the wedding - starting at 7am until we leave for the rehearsal dinner at 5pm. I’m already stressed out about it but they’ve already invited people and made plans. I just wish I had nipped it in the bud to begin with, but now I’ll be seen as ungrateful even though its the LEAST opportune time for the bride.

My biggest regrets have been bridal party and guest list. I'm also not thrilled with the groomsmen attire, but it is what it is.

My regret is my dress. I planned on buying a $150 one from LulusI had tried on, but went to a shop that sells sample dresses for fun. I got a $2400 dress for $1100, plus $280 for alterations. It’s a great deal, but I feel like it’s such a waste of money when i could’ve just used the cheap one and still looked great. Too late now though, so there’s no sense being upset about it. If I could go back, I’d do the cheaper dress.

Guest list for sure. I have a big family and FH has a small family so I expected our list to be around 150-175, but FH and his extremely social mother have decided they need to invite a ton of people that I have never met in almost 5 years together. Now our invite list is at about 230 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

I didn’t really have a planning regret. I second guessed my dress, a lot. And I still don’t think it was “the one”, but i looked beautiful it was perfect even if it wasn’t.
One thing I do regret, more day of, is not being prepared for the day, time line wise. As prepared as I felt like I was, I was the one running late that day (kind of my husbands fault, lol) and I just felt kind of hectic all morning before the ceremony. And not having a shot list, theres a couple of shots I really wish my photographer would have captured.
One of the biggest things I learned, was no one cares about the details. Don’t stress over the small stuff. Your guests are going to notice the big picture it won’t matter if your dream flower had to be substituted with something cheaper, the linens aren’t the exact shade of your color, your bridesmaids accessories, if you don’t have flowers in your centerpieces etc. I see so many brides on here stressing about tiny stuff. I did too and it was causing me to suffer, until I let it go. The rest of my planning went great after that and my day was still beautiful. Good luck and enjoy this time!

The best advice I received to avoid dress regret was to stop looking at dresses after I made my decision. It was hard because I spent two months looking at thousands of dresses online, so it was habit at that point, but I made myself stop and I still love my dress.

I've been having some regret over the invites. They cost much more than I meant to spend, but they are gorgeous. So I just keep reminding myself that I've cut so many other corners (DIY flowers, hair, makeup, cake, venue), it's ok that I splurged some on the invites.

I'm definitely regretting my guest list. It got away from me somehow and now we're tight on space. I wish I'd excluded kids (there are about 55 under 18!) and true plus ones. But nothing I can do about it now. I just keep trusting that it will work out.

Guest list regret for sure. Don't let it run wild. Especially with two differing opinions between myself and FH I still feel strongly it got out of hand. Hoping to have many many declines!

Every once and a while I second guess some of my choices- feel like I'm not doing enough by taking the safe route. It's this damn wedding industry telling me that if I don't spend at least $1k on a dress then my wedding will be crap. All that matters to me is I get to marry my favorite person and spend the day with the important people in my life.

My biggest regret is catering. I wish I wasn't so stressed about booking a caterer so far in advanced. I think we're paying way too much for the quality of food we'll be getting.....but the deposit is down so oh well.

One of the biggest things I regret is more so having not asked my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids in a more cutesy formal manner. For instance you see people prepare proposal boxes to their bridesmaids and ask them. For me they all knew they would be it so I never really asked them formally. I kind of regret that because it would have been so cute and more thoughtful to gift them something like that.

In terms of my wedding, I think regret letting my guest list get a little crazy aha. I initially wanted a smaller wedding but we decided to allow our parents to invite people because in my culture that is sort of the norm and I figured fiance being the eldest son and my dad being 80 years old, it just felt right to let them. But I think if I could redo it all, I would go with a smaller guest list to simplify things more.

Mine was dress regrets (several times). Advice. One you buy your dress DO NOT LOOK at anything on line or stores!!! It makes you crazy! I now have dresses to sell!!! I've never been so indecisive in my life as over my wedding dress. To top it off the dress I fell in love with is NOTHING like I had pictured in my head!!!
Good luck and congratulations!!!

My biggest regret is relying on my DOC to keep me on track. I was trying to be present throughout the wedding to enjoy this special day but I lost track of time. I was counting on my DOC coordinator to tell us when it was time to go around to greet our guests at their tables but it happened too late. The coordinator forgot and informed us it was time to cut the cake right after we finished our dinner and instead of requesting additional time, our immediate response was to rush to attempt to greet and thank guests since we have the venue for a set amount of hours. Unfortunately, we only got to half of the tables and did not visit every table. We attempted to find our guests we initially did not greet throughout the night but missed our shot with some. I literally woke up the following morning feeling horrible about it. It was part of the plan to go around thanking our guests but it didn’t happen that way. Another regret is that I missed some shots I really wanted including pictures at every table. Although, I talked to family about my plans, some forgot and didnt follow through. Sorry y’all I needed to get this out, I’ve been feeling bad about this!

I have two things that if I could go back and change, I definitely would.

We booked a reception venue that allowed you to have your own catering. We wanted good food and at a good price. We were able to get bbq at $15pp. Everyone loved it! However, the catch to this venue was we had to do all the cleanup and setup ourselves, including providing linens. It ended up making it stressful and didn’t allow us to fully enjoy our day.

The second regret I have is with our photographer. They had shot my brother’s wedding so I didn’t feel the need to tell them what we wanted. We did the formal ones and I said I really wanted the rest to be candid photos. I barely saw them taking any pics at the reception and since we didn’t do a first look, there won’t be that many of just me and him.