Regrets or suggestions from the newly married

I would have changed my florist. I wanted to fire her about 3 months prior to the wedding, but my husband said no because he was concerned about finding someone else. We live 4 hours from the venue so finding new vendors was more of a challenge.

Had my videographer for a longer period of time.

Been more organized in the morning as I misplaced my jewelry and my bridesmaids were looking for it for 30+ minutes which meant I didn't get as many getting ready photos as I would have liked.

I would have let my girls pick the style of their dresses as we had many issues with the dresses that I did pick which caused a lot of stress.

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These are all great to think about. I like the organized one because I think it is easy to worry about everything but little things like my jewelry or strapless bra or something simple.

I also like the bridesmaid dress idea too. I was in a wedding where we had black wedding dresses and she let us pick the ones we wanted and we all felt more comfortable. It made it for less stress for everyone.
Thanks Veronica!

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For my own and other 👰🤵s, I want people to realize that it is NOT okay be an or bring uninvited guest(s) to someone’s event.

I can honestly say that I would have changed absolutely nothing about our day other than not extending the hours with the venue because we were worried it would seem too short but everyone ended up leaving early anyway (wedding was on a Sunday, most guests had a 2+ hour ride back home) so a few hundred bucks wasted. I have yet to see anything that anyone else has done and been like, aww man, I wish I would have done that or thought about that. The day was perfect.

I would have done the order of events during the reception different, such as cake cutting, first dance, and our special Father daughter/ Mother son dance.

I think the only thing I would have done differently would have relied on more money to rent the house one day earlier so I could get everything set up earlier. We were pressed for time the morning of the ceremony and I ended up running really late getting ready. The ceremony started only a few minutes late, but we missed a photo session at one of the locations we wanted to hit after our first look. It also would have saved a lot of stress for me and our kids.

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Yes unlesss the invite says otherwise I find that very rude.

We did a barn wedding so everything was BYO - I wish I had warned my bartenders (they supplied the liquor) that my friends love Club Soda with their mixed drinks. They ran out SO quick and although we brought extra of everything Vodka, Tequila, Beer, etc because we do have a lot of drinkers, I wish I had thought of Club.

One other thing was I wish I had talked my photographer into accepting a shot list, ours did not (red flag). I do not have any pictures with my mother my fault but I was totally wrapped up in the beginning of the reception I totally spaced and so did she.

We loved just about everything about our wedding- wouldn't change a thing. However, my venue was very pushy with keeping things on track and ended up skipping over my dad's speech. I didn't even realize it until it was too late.

I talked with my dad afterwards and he said it was fine; he got to spend the day with me and that's all that mattered to him.

My advice: don't be afraid to push back with your venue/vendors. You're paying them to do what you asked.

I would have spent more time finding a photographer and spent more money to get a good one.

I wish we would have had ushers at our ceremony. The venue coordinator at our venue was a bit of a dumb dumb and insisted we didn’t need ushers and that people “generally find their seats just fine on their own”. Yeah they found them all right... but by the time all the “important” family members arrived their seats were taken. I guess I wish we would have had reserved signs out too 🤣 Oops!

I honestly don’t think I would have changed anything. But, if I had to pick something, it would be having dinner served faster. I was ready to move on to the rest of the reception, so at one point, I told my DOC to have the caterer bring the dinner course out ASAP because I felt it was taking too long.