Registry Wording Help?

Don't do that

This is pretty tacky in my opinion. Don't ask for money. I have a feeling many will say the same thing as this question has been asked many times.

Listen to FFW

"We have both lived independently for several years, therefore we have all of the necessities we could possibly need between us. We look forward to you celebrating with us. Thank you!"

Thanks BoBina, this is helpful

I would suggest a small registry for people who prefer actual gifts. Most people will get the hint when all the items are gone and give you cash.

Yes definitely don't put that. Registry information is fine but let them decide what to give you. I think most people today know that couples prefer money. So have a small registry and people will get the hint.

If people want to give you money they will. There's no need to explain to adults how to put a check in a card.

That was meant to say don't ask for money, don't use the cash fund. Don't ask, people will know what to do. Just clarifyin' cuz English is not my first language. I don't have one.

If you keep a small registry people will usually give you money, but outright asking can offend guests and come off rude/tacky. If you just leave the registry small people will figure it out on their own. Tina always has great advice also!

Nooooooooo.

Either do a small registry (there's probably SOMETHING that could be upgraded), or in lieu of listing places where you're registered, put what @Tina said. If I was going to a destination wedding, I probably wouldn't lug an actual gift. I'd give a card with a check/gift card.

You're not going to find support for a 'money grab' on this site anyway, but when you have a destination wedding, you're forcing more people to spend a lot more money to attend your wedding than if it were local, and take more time off work, so it feels especially rude to me in that case.

Agree with Tina's wording - drop any reference to money, and people can read between the lines - but you don't ever plan a wedding counting on cash to offset the cost. If that's really the case, you should scale back your plans to make it more affordable.

ETA: even if you don't want any 'stuff' you should have a small registry - use this as an opportunity to 'upgrade' things you already have... new 18/10 flatware, Nespresso coffee maker, etc. that you've had a long time and have seen better days. People are going to give you gifts - money or other - whether or not you have a registry, so better to have something you want!

Do a search for cash registry, honey fund, and cash gift.

1) It's rude

2) It's tacky

3) It's rude and tacky

Have a small registry or no registry, your guests will get the hint. People know how to give money without a company getting a cut of the gift.

As far as our registry goes, we already own most of the common small household items we need, besides what's listed on Amazon. Our real needs lay in saving for larger items, such as furniture, that we would never consider asking one person to purchase alone.

This is what I wrote after having several family member ask why we did not register for more and if we realized we would need XYZ after buying a house. Dont worry about funds, most people know how to send cash checks or paypal (and no of those options take a % of money).

If you use online only options guest will send it to your house (or someone else in the states) so you dont have to travel with gifts)

If people want to send you cash, they will. DO NOT activate the cash fund, they take a percentage, and they are really really poor etiquette.

Register for some new sheets and towels and have them sent to your home (most people know better than to bring a gift on a DW) - leave it small and people will know what you want.

People don't Want to travel with gifts. It's likely they will send to your house. Just make a small registry. Do not do a honey fund.

Just as much as you don't want to travel home with gifts, people don't want to travel there with gifts. You'll get cash, or just consider people spending a lot to travel and witness your marriage your gift!

As a guest at weddings, I LIKE shopping for a gift. I have a lot of fun picking out a gift for the couple (even if I just choose off their registry).

If I saw something saying they just wanted cash I would assume they were honest about it--they truly don't need a gift. So, I wouldn't buy a gift, and I wouldn't give them cash either (because if they don't need anything, what do they need cash for?).

Asking for cash is akin to telling me you want nothing from me, which is what you would get, other than a nice card with my well wishes.

I love giving presents. And if you ask me for cash, you can count on getting a macrame owl wall hanging or a Harvest Gold toaster.

Don't ask for cash. Frankly, if you're asking people to go to Jamaica for your wedding, their very presence is their gift to you.