Registry & Save the Dates

I didn't have an engagement party, but I think its normal to register early if you do have one. You would probably put your wedding website on the STDs anyway and have your registry info on the website, so I wouldn't think that's tacky at all.

Alison we are on the same page here lol
My wedding is 7/14/12 and my engagement party is 7/2/11 which is around the corner..i already sent out the invites but i didnt mention anywhere on there about registery's.. How ever i am already registered at some places. I guess if im asked then i'll mention it. I never been to a engagement party so i dont know how to go about gifts etc.. im gonna try and upload a copy of my invite here

We have been engaged since Sept 2009 and people bugged us right away to register so they could get us things for Christmas, so registering a year ahead of time isn't a big deal. It also gives you the chance to go in over time and make decisions. Just realize that some things may be discontinued so don't open things you don't have a complete set of.

Anyway, I think having the wedding website on your STDs is fine. Just make sure you have MORE than just registry info on your website and it's not tacky at all.

We also got things we didn't register for - including champagne flutes and a cake cutting set for the wedding. Not really our style, but there's not much we can do about it. And it's special for the people who picked it out. Just don't expect that people will stick to your registry. I got 3 ring holders for my engagement... fortunately 2 people were understanding about letting me return them (I didn't return my grandma's) but I don't use the one I have left! Oh well

Here are my invites

Kelli, thanks! We actually had fallen in love with these particular save the dates and they dont have room for the website, but as long as I can do an insert, I'm happy!

Christina, your invite is beautiful and that's so funny that we're on the same wavelength! I haven't been to an engagement party either. My best friend is getting married in 2 weeks, and her fam threw her an engagement party last August - I couldnt go but I gave her a bride/groom frame from Macys since thats where she ended up registering afterwards (figured if she didn't like it, she could return it). I had no idea what to do but I'm a bridesmaid so I figured I had to do something! A lot of people say we're doing it too early (and I do have to watch out for discontinued items). I guess in your situation, I would see if guests can somehow hear about it by word of mouth, or you can send an email about your website and then the registry info is on there - like what Sarah said (thank you so much for your advice!).

Thanks Alison

i will keep u posted after mines lets see how it go's lol

We didn't have an engagement party, however when we sent out our save the dates I included our wedding website on it. Our registry was set up right before we sent out our save the dates because I was told by my mom that I needed to register if I was sending out save the dates. However I sent my save the dates out about 8 months prior to the wedding.

Good luck

Thanks Stacy - sort of like what I'll be doing - the save the dates are going out a year before but it's summer, so I feel the earlier the better so people don't plan vacations!

I think you're doing it exactly right.

You can certainly share your information on your web site.

But, one caution: Only share with people you are 100% certain you will invite to the wedding.

I am caught with guests I didn't want to invite but who sent me gifts before hand. I am so distressed about having to tolerate their abrasive personality and trying to seat them somewhere that they won't offend our other guests.