Registry problems

Return or exchange them. I get it, it's inconvenient, but it's not the end of the world.

We aren't doing a registry but this would frustrate me to no end!

I'm hoping we get no gifts (totally fine) or cash gifts. There will always be guests who get you what they want to get you, because some people are just like that, and it won't matter whether you are registered somewhere or have no registry at all. I'm hoping we don't end up with too many of those gifts we don't need, can't use, and have zero space for, but we'll see how it goes.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this but I'm sure at least some of your guests will get you items off your registry. For those gifts you get and don't want, see if you can return them, exchange them, regift them, or worse case, donate them.

Yeah, unfortunately, I think this is fairly typical, but definitely depends on what's normal for "your crowd." All you can do is try to point people in a general direction with a registry. Daughter had pretty extensive registries at Macy's and Kohl's. She had a bridal shower with about 25 guests and a wedding with 100 guests. She definitely got some random stuff (several "personalized" picture frames, etc.), but she also received almost everything from the registries (mostly at the shower) and they received a very significant total of cash/checks as wedding gifts. Ours is a fairly "traditional" crowd and part midwest (more cash-oriented) and the rest So Cal (a mix of cash and gifts -- especially from their younger friends who, understandably, tended to purchase less expensive items from the registry). Hang in!

“Anything from our registry would be greatly appreciated! You can find the details on the invite.” And then if someone tries to go “rouge” you can say something like, “it would be most helpful if everyone stuck to our registry to avoid duplicates, thanks.” At the end of the day, you can just return or exchange things. Totally annoying, I get it, but just try to politely direct them to your lists. If you have a MOH, or someone hosting your bridal shower, they can be a resource to refer people to as well.

I would just politely tell those asking that the things you and your future spouse need are listed on either of your two wedding registries. My husband and I told our guests who asked us this and we told them that no item was more important than another and we would be grateful to receive any of them. My husband and I didn't have any issues one we told guests who asked that, but we did have a couple of guests get us something we wanted from another store. They told us what they purchased and we took it off of our registry. I understand it's frustrating but often times guests want to get you things you'll actually use and many want to know what your favorite item on your registry is.

Ugh, they are not “suggestions,” they are literally the items you want. This person clearly doesn’t know what they are doing!