Registry or No Registry...that is the question

Nope! A registry is only necessary if you have a shower. There may be a few people who will give you physical gifts no matter what though so be prepared for that.

View Quoted Comment Awesome news!! Thank you so much! It's hard to think of things to put on a registry when you have everything you already need 😊.

Judging by your situation, I wouldn’t. I was engaged before, had an engagement party, ended it, I’m now engaged to someone else and I’m on the fence of having another engagement party... what you could do is set up an account on honeyfund.com and have people give money towards your honeymoon, but don’t make it seem like they’re obligated to

I think there is a lot that depends on situation to answer this. I too have been married before, 10 years ago. He has not been married before and his family is over the moon to celebrate us. I have said no to showers and what not, we also live together. From the moment we were engaged I was asked about a registry.



His mom and I talked about everything very candidly. What it came down to is she, and his entire side of the family want to celebrate in a traditional way (which our wedding will not be). Even my parents wanted to pitch in on a few things to honor the relationship I have with my partner. So we have the traditional registry, just much smaller. And now hope to be able to update some of our older things (including those from my previous marriage) with new things and therefor new memories.

Only if you want to! If there's household items you'd like to upgrade (towels, cookware, bedding, etc.) making a registry is a great idea!

My fiancé and I have lived together for over 8 years. He had the house before me, it has most all we need.


With that said, REGISTER. Amazon has an easy to use registry for ride and guest. You can always use new sheets and towels and they KitchenAide mixer or super pricy vacuum! Hey even a PS4 or Xbox one.... People look to you to give them a guide- if there’s nothing on it, or the few items have been gotten, then they will choose money or a gift card.

For my shower I selected a few meaningful charitable organizations and had people donate to one in my honor. For our wedding we asked everyone to contribute to our honeymoon since we love to travel (and also live together, having all the essentials already).

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! How did you ask people to contribute to the honeymoon?

Thank you everyone for all your help and advice!!

View Quoted Comment I found this cute little poem (which we altered a bit) that we put on our website with a photo of our destination. This is what it says:


We've been together quite a while
With all our pots and pans

And as we don't need homely gifts
We have another plan!

We know it's not traditional
And not the way it's done

But rather than a wedding list
We'd love a bit of fun!

So if you would like to give a gift
And send us on our way

A contribution to our honeymoon
Would really make our day!

Portugal and Spain, we're coming in May!!



*There will be a safe designated space for gifts at the entrance to the reception*

I wouldn't do one to be honest. especially if you already live together and have everything you need. it'll be more hassle for you to register than anything lol