Registry or no registry for a second marraige? What to do?

Please, no mention of gifts or no gifts belongs on the invitation. Spread that information by word of mouth or your web site if you have one. Not sure I would do a registry for a second marriage.

I would not do a registry for a second wedding...if the wedding was three years ago or 30 years ago. I'd also not make any mention of gifts -- anywhere (especially since registries are generally geared towards wedding shower gifts)..

Guests will likely give you cash, which is completely appropriate and what most of them want to do, so leave them to it and don't address gifts.

The family did want to throw a shower, but I wouldn't allow it. I think those are for first time brides only in my opinion. We are not doing showers, pre parties, not having a wedding party...just bride and groom. My idea was no registry and from the responses already, I can see my thinking was right in line. Thanks.

This really is a know your crowd thing. In some circles, everyone gives money for a wedding (most common on this forum). But in others, people feel more comfortable purchasing gifts. If you family is telling you that you'll receive physical gifts, believe them.

Make a small registry and put a link on your wedding website (not the invitation). I don't think 2nd marriage matters much, especially when so much time has passed.

My mom didnt have a registry for her second marriage. Still almost everyone brought something (although she said she saw more actual gifts than cash- guess it felt weird to give them cash since they were well established).

I wouldn't do one, but definitely don't mention it on the invitation

We're not doing one either, and I had the same questions as you have. A suggestion I received was to register with a charity of your choosing. I realize that people are gonna gift how they're gonna gift out of love, even if we don't need / want, and we have to be gracious about that.

I think it's fine to have a registry and shower for second marriages. Just because you've been married before doesn't negate the celebratory feelings that give rise to your loved ones giving you gifts to start your new life together. After all, it may not be your first time as married, but it is your first time as married to each other. As @Elphaba said, showers are no longer about setting up a young couple's household but about celebrating that couple. Who cares if it's the 1st or 2nd marriage?

I think it's fine to do a registry and shower for a second marriage.

Please, no word of gifts or registries anywhere on an invitation.

I'm having a registry for my second wedding. My mother has said something about a shower down the road, if it comes up again I plan to suggest a recipe shower because I love the idea and I'm always looking for recipes that work with FH's unusual food allergies.