Registry help!

I would say do not do a registry to have new stuff. I think it is slightly off putting for couples that have lived together do a registry when I can deduce they have the necessary essentials. It is usually if you have nothing. I personally would say no.

View Quoted Comment That's kind of my thoughts too. I dont feel right making a registry full of things I just want. If people want to give gifts at my wedding I would rather it be gifts that they found on their own without going off a list of things that would just be convenient to have.


So if I dont do a registry, do I still have a wedding/bridal shower??

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I don't see why not. You can call it that or name it differently. If people choose to give you gifts that is cool but I think any chance for people to come and celebrate your day why not? I would maybe do just a bridal brunch or luncheon. What do you think?

View Quoted Comment Ooh yes! Here we have a thing called "painting with a twist" where (with a group) you can pick which piece you want to learn to paint and they have a person go through a step by step of how to paint it with your group. I'd much rather do that with my people than do a shower.

We were in a similar position, and I didn't want a traditional shower either. Instead, my bestie found a cooking class we could all go to and then eat what we made for dinner. So much fun! She put together a cookbook full of recipes submitted by my family and friends with pictures of is all throughout the years. Seriously one of the best gifts I've ever received.

View Quoted Comment That's what we did for my best friend. She and her hubby had two kids so she didn't want a shower. You could do something cool like that. We had fun.

View Quoted Comment That's my kind of bachelorette outing lol.

I don’t see a problem with a registry. My fiancé and I have been living together for little over a year, but neither of us had nice stuff. My stuff came from my apt. and I bought it when I had no money (ie cheap pots and pans). His stuff was mostly hand me downs from aunts and his mom after they used them for several years. Sure it all works, but we are looking to upgrade, and I have had several family members tell us to add MORE to our registries! We have 2 (amazon and BBB), and combined we have maybe 60 items. We are having 2 showers, and are adding items we wouldn’t splurge on for ourselves. If people want to do their own thing, we won’t be offended either.

View Quoted Comment I'm so torn. Everyone in my family and my in laws all say to just put upgrades since everything we have as well is all cheap stuff from the dollar store and what not. And I know my in laws want to throw me a bridal/wedding shower. I might just leave it where it is and if my registries run out of gifts then I'm sure everyone will just get creative or something.


But part of me feels like I shouldnt just be asking for upgrades either. I dont know.

I did a registry for our older family members that have asked specifically about a registry. People were really pushy about one so we have about 49 items we could/should upgrade or things we just couldn’t bring ourselves to purchase. I just know the older generations in our family wouldn’t send anything without a registry (so they wouldn’t give money).

FH and I have lived together for 5 years, but will be doing a registry.

It depends on your crowd. We have some guests that want to shop from a registry so we are creating a small one.

We will be putting some stuff to upgrade, like new towels since ours are getting old.

We also put attachments for our kitchen aid mixer and a luggage set on our registry. I'm stumped after only having like 10 things on our registry!

One of my friends recently got married after living with her husband for a couple of years. She said they had to keep adding things to their registry because people wanted to shop from it and they didn't have enough items on it.

I’m in the same boat!!! 😬🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment I feel better about it now. I talked to our families and they all said to just upgrade my items and they are the ones who would be shopping from it. So if they think it's fine then I feel better about it.