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Beginner June 2017

Registry for Courthouse Wedding?

Rachael, on December 11, 2016 at 12:57 PM

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Genuinely interested in some opinions on this: FH and I recently scrapped our plans to have a big wedding and instead we're going to the courthouse with 10-15 of our closest friends and family. However, we are still going to throw a big party that weekend for everyone that was on our guest list...

Genuinely interested in some opinions on this: FH and I recently scrapped our plans to have a big wedding and instead we're going to the courthouse with 10-15 of our closest friends and family. However, we are still going to throw a big party that weekend for everyone that was on our guest list (save the dates had already gone out, so we're just keeping it on the same date). It will be a catered party with alcohol provided, music, a photobooth, etc--just in a more casual backyard setting and not at the original wedding venue. We're going to tell people to check our wedding website for updates about the wedding and will still send out invitations, get RSVPs and all that. We had initially set up a registry which is linked on our website--what do you guys think about having a registry in this situation? We aren't advertising it in any way, it's just there if people want to use it and of course we wouldn't expect anything regardless, but I'm curious since we aren't having (con in comments)

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  • Justine
    Dedicated June 2018
    Justine ·
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    Maybe when you update the info on the website you could include that gifts are not expected, however if they would like to give a gift, the registry link is still there.

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  • Beutivant
    Master May 2016
    Beutivant ·
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    As someone who scrapped her big wedding and eloped on a whim, we had many family and friends ask us afterwards where we were registered. But since our planned wedding was a year away, we hadn't done so yet. Some of our family and friends still decided to gift us something which was very nice. That being said, IMO, since you're still hosting a celebration, I think it's fine to still have it. I was so surprised by how many people expected us to be registered even when we eloped. I will also say there were plenty of close family members who didn't gift us anything (or ask about the registry). (Which is totally fine, of course!) Those people I feel pretty confidently would have gifted us something had we had the wedding to which they were invited. So this was a long winded way to say I think it's fine to leave your registry as long as you aren't surprised by some non-gifters.

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  • Mrs.Wife
    Super October 2017
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    I say leave it up. Some people will still want to buy you a gift. I have a friend getting married and it's a family only event. I was bummed but I still went to their website and got them something off their registry.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    I would leave it. Especially since you are still doing a reception type event. The gift is supposed to be a congratulations. It's not dependent on wether people see the actual ceremony or not. The fact remains that you got married. I always buy gifts for newlyweds.

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