Registry and House Fund!

Ew...are you asking people to pay for your home?

No. Just no.

No. Don't ask for money. It's really bad etiquette to request that guests give you money. You're not a charity, right?

Better plan as Shaybird said is to do a small registry. Most people will give money.

Warning: You are about to get roasted. These people have no mercy on anybody who asks for money. Don't ask for money... no matter how tempting it is. Everybody could use a little extra money. I would love to have some money for building a house too, but I just don't want people to think of me as a beggar lol.

No. Just No.

We all would love money for a house. There really is no polite way to ask for this though.

You have a registry and nothing else. You can't ask people for money in a tasteful way. There is no such thing as a house fund for weddings. This doesn't exist. If you can't afford to buy a house, you just don't. Your guests aren't funding your life, they can, however, help you upgrade the things in your current home or maybe buy things you otherwise wouldn't purchase for yourself.

Even if the guests did give cash, its not like it is enough to really help...I would just keep it classy and not ask for money.

How's about a 'classy' poem then?

^ Hope that's sarcasm. Poems don't make asking for money any less rude or tacky, lol. You have your small registry and your guests will get the hint. They are adults and know how to give gifts, whether it be cash or something tangible, you don't need to spell it out for them any further than that.

Of course it was sarcasm.

@Natalie Thank goodness!

Don't tell me you don't need pots pans dinnerware etc. I've been on my own for over 17 years and I have done pretty good for myself. But I don't have a nice set of anything. As for the house. Make an Amazon registry. You can get everything from light bulbs to fixtures to furniture. Don't ask for money. It's rude

Don't do that! We have a new house and upgraded everything last year when move. We don't need anything. So, we just wont have a registry and I'm not having a bridal shower.

Don't have a registry. Discuss with your mom, FMIL and MOH. Tell them, if anyone asks, they can say, oh, I don't think Cassidy needs anything, I am giving money. Word will get around. But they cannot initiate the calls.

"I'm getting married, please pay my mortgage!"

Classy.

I'm still waiting for a student loan registry to become a thing! Haha

In all seriousness, just have a small registry for the older guests. It turns out that adults actually know how to give gifts and will most likely give you money regardless.

Yaaaaa don't do that! Asking other people to fund your home purchase is not cool.

People on here might attack you, but as an older couple living in a large city, I've found that it's very common to do a honeyfund or house fund. Since we already have all the things we need, my fiancé and I are just saying "no gifts," and will gratefully accept any cash that we're given, but aren't specifically asking.

I think the attitude about this varies widely by region and age group, so I'd ask your local peers rather than this forum.

@asanchez.. this is NOT true. I live right outside NYC and everyone I know still had a registry with gifts on it. I live in a 1 bedroom 600 sq foot apt and have lived on my own for 10 years and there were so many things we could upgrade! We had about 100 items on our registry and just over 40 have been purchased from my shower. You don't need to say "no gifts". Adults know how to give a card and if the norm in your area is to give cash, people will do it without being told to do so.

OP, Add things to your registry. Have you gone to the store in person? That helped us. Also can a mom or aunt go with you? My aunts were great in helping me pick things out that I didn't realize would be so handy!

I would just add extra towels, sheets, etc... things that you will always need more of. That's what we did because we refused to do a honeyfund, money fund, or anything of that nature.