Registry Alternatives

Registry information of any kind doesn’t go in a wedding invitation. Shower invite, wedding website, or word of mouth only. So while these poems do exist they aren’t appropriate to include with the invitation.

I didn't realize that! Thank you for letting me know!

I just cringed reading that poem. Agree with Kelly, it has no place on a wedding invite.

View Quoted Comment Perhaps there is a more tactful to say you don’t like the poem.

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Thank you Andrea!

I like the poem! I agree it doesn't belong on the invitation, but you could definitely put that on the website. I think it is a cute and clever way to say you'd prefer money without coming off as grabby.

View Quoted Comment I was giving my honest opinion about my reaction. A reaction OPs guests might have. I'm sorry that my honesty bothered you but hopefully it was helpful to OP.
Have a great day!

I had seen invitations that come with the registry information so I had not idea. I mean I've only planned a wedding once lol. But I appreciate you looking out. People may not know how their words come off sometimes.

I'm not sure where else you'd put the registry information if not in the invite, I have seen that before, but typically it's a much much smaller piece of paper, like a business card with the website on it as well.
I like the poem, I will caution the line about growing your family might invite people to ask if you are pregnant and if you're not planning on children right away/at all that might confuse people.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. I didnt hate it either.

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Thank you, I didn't realize that these do not go in invitations. My invitations are multi-pieced so I appreciate the information! Thank you so much!

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We are planning for children right away as we have been together several years. I also worry about not giving a reason. Just saying we want money instead of gifts. I've read a lot of websites that mention if you let you guest know what you are wanting to do with the monetary gift they are less likely to take offense. Since we are not planning a honeymoon, and we already own our home, we decided to be honest and say that we are wanting to have kids soon and we would like to start our savings to do so. As well growing our family could also contribute to buying a bigger house. I was just trying to make it feel personal so my guest do not get offended.

The last thing I am is a writer so if anyone has any suggestions to improve this or shorten it I would gladly take them! Thanks so much!

This isn't my cup of tea. But I'm on the side of not directly asking for money. I also don't think a monetary gift will directly grow your family unless it's going towards adoption costs or IVF treatments? And in that case I would just say that? I'd probably put your registry information on your shower invite & website, then not say anything else. People will gift cash if there is no registry or a small registry.

That sounds logical then. Be prepared for questions though, people love asking about babies! Because you are planning on starting that right away if asked say you're saving for some nursery items (ie crib, rocking chair) and would rather put money into planning that. I suspect most people will understand and coo about it! My family certainly would.

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I was worried about ending up with gift cards. I appreciate any gift that is given and they absolutely are not expected. I was just trying to not be wasteful. I don't feel the need to ask for new dishes when the dishes I already have are fine. As well I view making sure we have a stable savings before starting a family is important. We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves but are also emotionally ready to start our family. I don't want to bring a child into this world that I cannot financially support. And a little to get us ahead would help. But I greatly appreciate your point of view and am still on the fence of asking for registry alternatives or not. Thank you for giving me a side to consider!

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If someone gives you a gift card, it's because they really don't want to gift cash so asking for cash won't change that (in my opinion). You can always sell gift cards.

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Oh we have been questioned about it for years now. Both our families are sitting on the edge of their seats waiting for us to have kids! Thank you so much for your advice! I do appercaite it!

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This is an idea I hadn't considered. Very valid point! Thank you!

You could list places they could get you gift cards from.