Registry advice

Are you planning on having a shower? If so then you have to have a registry for that. If not maybe do a couple items you could upgrade and people will get the hint and give you cash instead.

Living together for 14 years I'm sure you need some new things. Such as: new bedding. Linens. Towels. Upgrade some things we had a blast with ours.

My shower is Aug. I'm excited. We have been living together for 2 years

We registered on JustGive for some charities that meant something to us. We are the same - we've been together 15 years on our wedding date, we were both married before, and we have double of everything already. Most of our guests will be from OOT, so them being with us on our day is all the "Gift" we want. However, knowing some folks just REALLY want to give a gift, we registered our charity choices.

Register for some place and select upgrades that would be nice to have.

I suggest amazon because you can always register for items that aren't typically on a registry like kitchen gadgets and linens. For example, if you and your FH have hobbies (camping, skiing, hiking, etc) maybe you can register for items that you need for them. If all else fails, you can always skip a registry all together and I believe most people will probably just give cash.

We plan to register for some home improvement stuff at our hardware store. Our house could use some work, and the money that wouldbe going into the house is going toward the wedding currently. Mmmm, new faucets...

We have pretty much everything we need also, so we are registering for towels, bedding, new cookie sheets, a couple pots and pans. Never can go wrong with some upgrades..

Register for upgrades (new towels, new bed sheets, new toaster, etc.), or register for things you wouldn't normally get: towel warmer, wine cooler, a Dyson.

First of all, it's way too early for you to register. We registered in February and a bunch of the things we put on our list are already discontinued or on clearance with limited stock.

And secondly, I can't imagine that there is literally nothing at all you want. None of your sheets or towels have gotten a bit worn over the last 14 years? There isn't a juicer or a panini press or a cake decorating set or anything that you haven't quite managed to buy for yourselves? There are no camping supplies or board games or other hobby paraphernalia that you would welcome having? Nothing at all?

You don't have to register, but if you don't register you can't accept a shower. And even though it's not required, it is my personal opinion that it's a kindness to your guests to have at least a small registry for people who prefer to give physical gifts.

Finally, you are on the right track refusing to do a honeymoon registry. The same rules apply to *any* method of asking for money from your guests. No honeymoon registries, no charity registries, no "money tree" or money dance or cash bar or any of those things.

This is the best time to upgrade what you already have. My FH and I have been together over 13 years, living together since 2010. We are in dire need of some upgrades, as a lot of our stuff was new when we first moved in together. We registered for updated cleaning products (vacuum, steam mop, etc), kitchen appliances (coffee maker, toaster, blender, among other things), sheets, new bedding, new towels and some new bathroom items. Even though not all of these NEED to be replaced, we plan on donating all our working appliances if we happen to get new ones as gifts.

A plate warmer would be nice to have as well.

If you decide not to register, you could do a recipe shower or a "stock the bar" shower where guests bring a bottle of wine. Something like that so guests don' thave to just go rogue.

Think of what you'd like to upgrade or rooms that you want to redecorate!

Thanks everyone! These suggestions are great

Yeah we didn't really "need" anything either but registered for some items that were upgrades -- i.e. pretty serving pieces we could use if we had a party, nicer sheets and towels, and some non-necessary cooking items like a pizza stone.

We've lived together for 5 and are basically in the same boat. So we just put some upgrades on our registry. The usual sheets, towels, kitchen things.

You should definitely do what others have mentioned and at least create a small registry of upgrade items. If you are blessed with someone hosting a shower for you then guests will have no idea what to gift you - you don't want to be that person returning gifts because you don't like them, they don't match your decor, or you will never use it. Everyone can use upgrades - a few new sheet sets, better pillows then you may regularly purchase for yourself, bath towels, etc. I also had to use my registries as a opportunity to upgrade - we have lived together for some time and both were on our own for many years prior to moving in together. Trust me, I am sure in the last 14 years you have items that can use a upgrade.

It may be a little early to register because things will so on clearance, be discontinued, etc. but go through your home and make a list of some things that could be replaced. Look at the lists that stores provide of their recommended registry items and see if there is anything that stands out.