Registries for Destination Wedding?

Do a small registry and leave people to figure it out themselves

Yeah, don't ask for cash.

I don't know how you can also really request gift details without being gift grabby. I guess word of mouth?

I come from a gift-giving area, and most of my gifts fit in the back of my Ford Explorer. We didn't go straight home for a few days,and they stayed in my car (covered). No big deal.

ETA: 2016beachwedding - not necessarily. If she's from a gift-giving area or a gift-giving circle and the registry is cleared by the time someone shops, they may just buy off the registry stuff. My area and circle doesn't do cash.

We had an Amazon registry and only 2 guests brought gifts (not from the registry) to the wedding. I think people know not to bring actual gifts to a wedding.

I know my cousin's website mentioned they were flying home and had something cute about shipping things to Texas (their wedding was in PA). They also had a family member making a road trip a few months later though who brought a few gifts that had been brought to the wedding.

At my wedding, I had 6 or 7 gifts to open and the rest were cards. Nothing too large; it all fit in my car the next day.

Lara - not necessarily. I'm 38, and I didn't know people gave cash at a wedding until I came here 3 years ago. I was raised you bring boxed gifts.

Thanks everyone! We might just do a small registry, but many people have personally came to us to ask us what exactly we need. We both have Filipino families who will send us home with gifts they think we'll need unless we specify what exactly it is we need. Last time we were in the area, his mother had already gifted us tons of kitchenware we honestly didn't need or ask for. I'm very grateful nonetheless, but I'd hate for all that gift-giving energy to be put somewhere it doesn't need to be. Like E-Tex, we are in a big gift-giving circle.

I'm still considering just writing something cute about shipping to OH as WolfWedding2016 mentioned. Maybe that will steer people in the direction of cards if shipping sounds unappealing to them?

I think Zola is fine if you don't do a cash fund. That's what we're using, because we could add things from a lot of places. You can set it up to direct people to the website to purchase the item (instead of sending you cash equivalent). But I'm guessing your guests know that you don't live in DC, and many will ship your gifts to you before. ETA if you prefer cash gifts, just keep your registry small.

Most registries give people the option to have the gift delivered to your house if they order online.

I think for a DW, common sense would tell people to ship the gifts to your home. Otherwise, they too will need to travel with it.

Amazon does a universal registry, if that interests you! Definitely register, and if you have a wedding website, put a note that since you are having a destination wedding, you would prefer that any gifts are shipped. Often times, online registries also allow you to put in a little note that will show up at the top of the page and you could put the same info. I would assume that most of your guests attending would not want to haul a gift with them as they travel AND realize that you do not want to haul their gift back with you. Plus, in my experience most people give cards/cash at the wedding and not a physical gift.

Just to clarify, I know that the gifts will be sent directly to us. We won't be driving back home for another week after the wedding, so I want to make sure that if people are sending gifts to us, they don't get here until we're back. It's just a matter of letting people know that we'd prefer to have them sent to us, plus the fact that we won't be home right after the wedding.

I'm considering Amazon because it has a universal option, but then again, with Zola, you have the option to hold off on deliveries until you're ready to receive them. I've been reading lots of reviews of brides and guests having a hard time using Zola because it tends to not be user friendly when guests are buying something not from the Zola website itself. Amazon sounds more user friendly, even when using the universal option, but the problem with shipping while we're not home still persists.

Thanks, annakay511! Just saw your reply after I posted. Looks like I'm switching to Amazon completely. Most of our guests live in the DC area, but we'll leave friendly notes reminding them that we've still got a long drive back home.

I would do a small registry and people should get the hint. I'm thinking if people know it's a DW that it should be common sense to ship the gift to your house if they choose to go off if your registry.