Hi Everyone,
Still have about 5-6 more months until the big day and some are asking about a registry but when I say I am not having one I have some friends that are confused about it. It's traditional in Vietnamese/most Asian cultures that we gift newly weds with a red envelope or just give cash to weddings. This is what I am used to as a guest as well. I never really thought into registries either because A.) I don't need anything really and B.) I live with my FH for the past year. So now that I decided not to have one, should I just leave out all information about it or do I add a little note in my website? A cousin of his had a little note or poem simply stating that basically they had everything they did and the presence of their guests would be enough but if they felt inclined anything going towards their new life and supporting their little family would be appreciated. I didn't get offended or put off by this at all and thought it was rather creative way to let guests know that money is more appreciated. To us, monetary gifts are more respectful, traditional, wishes good luck to the newly weds. I know American traditions have said this was tacky but because of my culture this is perfectly fine and is preferred. To get some of my guests to understand this in a more subtle and respectful way, I thought of doing the same thing. I ran by this article and found it helpful: Money for Wedding Li Xi
I would leave out the red envelope in the wedding invitation part probably. It does seem a bit "too-in-your-face" for my taste.
But I liked the poem:
We have toasters and bins
We have all the other things
We have TV and DVDs
We have many old CDs
We hope to have your precious company
To witness the start of our matrimony
The joys of you joining us
To celebrate our wedding day
The two different cultures united together
The two of us never to be without each other
But shall you decide to attend with a gift
May we ask your token towards our honeymoon trip
The trip of our beginning
The start to our forever
May the Lai See that we have given
Be your part in the Chinese tradition
Your greatly appreciated gift
Of any amount you wish
In this red packet sealed
Is to bring us many years of joy, happiness and health
May we sincerely thank you all for being our dearest family and friend
But most of all…
The greatest present indeed is your precious presence
Our day will not be the same without your essence
Love
Carms & Paul (to be replaced by Vy and Andrew)
** of course I'll change around the wordings a bit
So, honest opinions, should I put a similar poem up under my "gifts" section of the website or just completely leave it out and let guests assume? How would you react if you saw this poem? Half are family and the other half are friends (more used to registries).