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“Reception”

Staci, on December 28, 2019 at 4:43 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 9

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Me and my fiancé are planning on going to courthouse to get married. We are wanting to have a dinner celebration at a restaurant with our family’s (my parents and siblings and his parents, siblings and close cousins and aunts and uncle) we however can not afford to pay for everyone’s meal as we have a little one on the way and will be here not to long after we get married. I just don’t know how to word it on the invite for the dinner so they are prepared to pay for their own dinner and can make the decision whether or not to come or not. We will be getting a private room at a restaurant we had our gender reveal at that provides 3 different menus to choose from at different price ranges.

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Latest activity by Kari, on December 31, 2019 at 3:29 PM

Master September 2020
Nicole · on December 28, 2019 at 4:49 PM
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If you cannot afford to pay for them, then you don’t invite them. Can you choose a less expensive restaurant? Or maybe just cut it down to parents and siblings?
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Gen · on December 28, 2019 at 5:09 PM
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Yeah it’s really rude to “invite” people to something you won’t be paying for. Just choose a less expensive place, or invite fewer people
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on December 28, 2019 at 5:13 PM
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Agree with PP’s, you should only host the number you can afford.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on December 28, 2019 at 6:18 PM
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Have a small gathering at your place and order some bbq, Italian, Pizzas or something. My friend did some cake and lunch after going to the courthouse.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on December 28, 2019 at 10:12 PM
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I agree with the other posters. It is rude to invite people to celebrate your marriage wi you and expect them to pay. If you want to do this then you need to be the ones to pay.
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Super February 2020
Andrea · on December 29, 2019 at 1:59 AM
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I agree with others. You shouldn’t invite someone expecting them to pay. If you can’t afford it then do something cheaper. The whole point is to spend time with each other so anything will do!
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on December 30, 2019 at 10:15 AM
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If you cannot afford the dinner, don't have one.
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Expert October 2020
Haley · on December 31, 2019 at 2:16 PM
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I think the only way you could get away with this is to call them individually and say "hey, we are getting married next tuesday and we want to go out to eat after. feel free to meet us there at 7 if you want!" That way they won't be expecting you to pay and you aren't "hosting" so much as asking them to join you for dinner.
But doing it that way, you can't guarantee how many will show up and you run the risk of renting this room with 2 people showing up.
If I was invited to this, I would would assume if I showed up to a room rented at a restaurant that someone else was paying the bill.

Would it be possible to have something at home and you could ask everyone to bring a dish since it's such a small crowd?
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Kari · on December 31, 2019 at 3:29 PM
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I think you can make plans to get a private room at a restaurant, but I wouldn't dare call it a reception. You are going to have to make it sound more casual, like "Hey after the ceremony we're going to grab dinner at this restaurant to celebrate. Let us know if you'd like to join so we can make sure we book enough space." It needs to sound similar to how it sounds when a bunch of friends agree to meet at a bar to celebrate someone birthday. If you are hosting an actual party, you should be paying for your guests.

If your families are local, could you do a potluck at your house after, or if not, maybe order in something less expensive (pizza, sandwiches, Italian)?
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