Reception for out of state friends

Are these friends of yours that the couple wants at the wedding? Is the couple on board with planning 2 events? I think 2 events would be too much. It's a lot to try to plan and the costs associated with this would be a lot. I think that it's okay to have one event and invite them to come. Let them make the decision to come celebrate with the couple.

I think 2 event and 2 different location is to much but if the couple is on board then that's all that matters.

I think you should just plan one event and invite the out of town guests. If they want to be a part of her celebration they will make time to support her. I'm also getting married this year and I've invited friends and family from all over so I think one event will be ok, and it'll you and those helping fund the wedding save some money and time.

IMO, One and done!

I would only host one reception. The OOT guests can decide if they can attend. I wouldn’t pay for 2 receptions when they have the option of attending the first one.

This is a bit like my situation. We live and are getting married in MD but my family and friends from growing up are in MA. We just invited everyone whose important to us and then my mom is planning a shower in MA especially for guests who were invited but cant travel.

I would *want* to have a large engagement party where you are and then invite everyone to the wedding. I think it's the most conventional way to handle it, but I realize that it may be financially overwhelming.
I'd try to be clear that it's a party you're hosting so that everyone can celebrate. You don't want people to feel like it's a gift grab or that they can only come to one or the other, or only if they can make both.

Does your daughter want to do two receptions and celebrations for her wedding? Personally, planning one event was enough for me. And so was the price tag.

in my opinion, if these guests really want to celebrate with her, they will travel for the wedding. I understand some may not be able to afford it but it doesn’t sound like this is the case for your friends and family, it just sounds like you don’t want to ask them to travel. H and I got married where I grew up. All his family we invited from where he grew up flew to our wedding.

I think the only time two celebrations works is when it’s a small out of the country destination and then a bigger reception. Otherwise, literally any bride and groom could justify having multiple receptions so there was never any out of town guests.

Invite them to the wedding and let them decide if they can go. Hosting two weddings is too much. One wedding is expensive enough.

10 Hours isn't actually that long, IMO. My FWs family is all about 10 hours away, we're planning on reception and just inviting all of the OOT people, they can decide if the drive/flight/travel is worth it to them.

One of my dad's friends is flying from England to attend our wedding in MA, USA. If it's important for them to come, they will make it work regardless of the distance. As PP said, 2 events are a lot and you'd be making the couple travel for one of them.