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Reception dinner food options

Kelly, on April 16, 2022 at 6:58 PM Posted in Planning 15 12

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So, after searching a zillion venues I finally found an affordable one that does it almost all for you. It’s lovely. The stress is over or so I thought. I can pick two dinner choices for plated option or buffet. I like plated especially with covid and it seems more formal. I am doing Chicken or fish as the main entree options as steak isn’t for everyone. This all comes of course with bread, salad and sides of veges. These venues are strict and it’s costly enough, so I don’t see how people can expect you to cater to their every food restriction. I’ve never been catered to as a vegetarian and am even not doing a vegetarian option at my own wedding as most people eat the selections. So here is my dilema, we decided to widen the invite circle and one person is vegan. The venue will not make a pasta for one person and told me I can cater out for her. I find it hard to imagine I will be worrying about finding, ordering and delivering food to keep temperature controlled on my wedding day when I have tons of other stuff to do. How should I handle this? When we go out to eat she usually just eats salads and veggies anyways. I feel like one persons’ meal should not be this difficult. Oftentimes I even ate before going to events in case there was nothing for me.

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Latest activity by Kelly, on April 18, 2022 at 4:41 PM

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Hannah · on April 16, 2022 at 7:28 PM
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Every wedding I've ever been to, the catering (whether in house or through a separate caterer) was able to accommodate vegetarian/vegan dietary restrictions or allergies. For instance, we had 3 entree options (a prime rib, chicken, or salmon) and our venue had a vegan pasta dish available upon request that didn't count as one of the entree choices.
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Emily · on April 17, 2022 at 7:37 AM
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I agree. It's usually standard to have a vegetarian option free of charge. If their vegan, it's by choice, so if your caterer can only accommodate vegetarian, it's on the guest.
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Caryn · on April 17, 2022 at 12:41 PM
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I agree with the other posters that the venue should accommodate this, but on the off chance that you can't work this out with the venue, make it someone else's problem. Assign a bridesmaid, family member or friend to take care of this task for you.
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Michelle · on April 17, 2022 at 2:32 PM
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This is the caterer’s responsibility. Is there anything they are willing to fix for this guest? If not, look for another caterer.
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Kelly · on April 17, 2022 at 3:33 PM
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I so agree/ unfortunately the Wedding venue makes all the food there as they are usually a restaurant on non wedding days. I can’t believe they are so strict. Thank you for the feedback
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Michelle · on April 17, 2022 at 3:53 PM
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If you are able and willing to forfeit the deposit, then look for a venue that allows outside catering. Otherwise have your day of coordinator act as mediator to get the situation resolved.
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Mrs.evans · on April 17, 2022 at 6:12 PM
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Just ask if they can do a pasta dish like a ravioli with a red or white sauce and put as an option incase some of the other guest may not like the options that they have chosen then it wouldn't be just for one person now it's a choice
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Paige · on April 18, 2022 at 12:02 PM
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Could you switch the fish option for a pasta option? I'm sure plenty of your guests would like pasta if that's the only way to accommodate the vegan guest. Or maybe put in an order ahead of time for a dinner from someplace, ask them to deliver it to the venue, and give the catering staff a heads up to expect it? Other than that, maybe try asking the venue if they could just make a bigger salad for your vegan guest.
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Kelly · on April 18, 2022 at 1:35 PM
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Thanks Paige. I will ask about the salad option. I could do pasta but the rehearsal dinner the night before is Italian and all pasta with various meats. So doing pasta again seemed like a bad idea. That’s the only reason I am hesitant to have that as a plated option. I’ll have to think on it. I feel like if I knew the bride was stressing over me (1 person this much as far as my meal) I would not want that. I guess everyone is different though with different expectations. I guess my biggest mistake was choosing this venue. When I choose it I didn’t think this would be a problem as our guest list didn’t include anyone beyond family and a couple friends. Then we changed that and now it’s an issue.
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Kelly · on April 18, 2022 at 1:48 PM
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I'm sorry you don't have your dietary needs met at events. I personally think it's rude not to at least cater to vegetarians. It's really odd that your venue won't make a single plate of pasta-it's not that hard. I agree with others though-assign a bridesmaid to handle food delivery for your vegan guest and maybe for yourself so you can eat a whole meal at your wedding.
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Willow · on April 18, 2022 at 3:01 PM
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The restaurant venue can't make a salad? Do they not have tofu?

Are you going to serve your vegetarians a plate that has chicken or fish on it?
I am the biggest meat eater, but I would think accommodating vegetarians at minimum is the default. I'd be very put off by this venue. This can't be the first time they had vegetarian od vegan guests.
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Kelly · on April 18, 2022 at 4:41 PM
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I’ve finally got this resolved! There is a communication issue in the sense that the venue doesn’t answer the question I asked very clearly. Slightly evasive. I was finding it hard to believe they would not accommodate. I received confirmation now after much back and forth that they will. If they had responded to me clearly I could have saved myself some stress! Thanks everyone for your input!!
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