For this we found the following compromise and I just like to ask you, how you would think about this from the guests perspective: we will marry in the registry office with just our parents, brothers and sisters on a wednesday or thursday. After the official wedding we will invite them to a restaurant and do a familytrip with both families afterwards to have a nice day alltogether. In the evening we will drive away to have a very special time for just the two of us until we come back on saturday morning to prepare a gardenparty in the garden of my partners parents on saturday evening with our parents, brothers and sisters and a handful of our closest friends (8 friends). We would take many things that would already be there like tables, chairs, dinnerware and stuff like this, but make a very fancy buffet, because we think, that the guests might get much more profit out of a lot of good food than of having all identical chairs and dinnerware. We would do the decorations a little less wedding-like but with masses of flowers (my partners parents have a plant nursery) and natural materials for it fits so perfectly into the gorgeous garden of a plant nursery (what doesn't mean we wouldn't spend money on decorations). As a dresscode we would say just normal street clothes because we don't want a classical and strict receiption, just a relaxed garden party without all those annoying speeches of everyone and stupid wedding games and so on and in our opinion, not wearing evening dresses and suits might make the atmosphere rather relaxed and comfy, rather like "just a gardenparty to have a nice time together". Maybe we would wear printed partner shirts or something like that. After the dinner we could do parlor games, drink beer, talk and so on until the late night. We already think about a bit of more program that would fit into the concept (so, if you have ideas, you can write them too
).Imagine you were a guest at such a gardenparty with around 20 people in total, would you like it just as we do or would this breaking conventions feel weird to you? Would you just have a nice time or complain, that it's not that fancy receiption with a big castle, golden plates and so on?
