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jaclynhannahxo
Savvy June 2019

Reception after Elopement

jaclynhannahxo, on July 30, 2018 at 5:26 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 21

Hi! Planning on having a small intimate wedding/elopement with just immediate family and then a reception afterwards for friends to celebrate! Would it be weird if we had the reception 2 days following the wedding? We would obviously send out invites sooner but has anyone ever done this or plans to? I will be leaving my parent's house shortly after and want my fiancés family from out of town to come as well so they want to throw like a going away/celebration of our marriage. Thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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Latest activity by FutureStephD, on July 30, 2018 at 10:04 PM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Not at all! The invites would just say you're invited to the reception, which is completely fine!

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  • Ashley1luv3
    Expert May 2019
    Ashley1luv3 ·
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    I think it's perfectly fine. 2 days isn't bad.
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  • Mrs. J
    Expert October 2018
    Mrs. J ·
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    I don't see why not! I love the intimacy of that idea.

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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Aw thank you Smiley smile But when would we send the invitations because it would be too late to send them after we got married right?

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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Thanks so much! When would you reccommend sending the invites though?

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  • FutureStephD
    Super March 2019
    FutureStephD ·
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    Yes, send the invitations 6-8 weeks before the reception, just like you would for the ceremony and reception.

    I think what others were trying to say was send an invitation for wedding/ elopement, then send a second invitation for the reception, with the latter noting it's a reception and not a ceremony.

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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Well the thing is that they wouldn't be invited to the ceremony. So for the reception invitation, it would say, 'We said yes!' or like 'We're married' basically but we wouldn't actually be married until two days before the actual reception, like that's not weird? Does that make sense? Sorry I feel like it's so hard trying to put this situation in words haha

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  • S
    Just Said Yes July 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Thinking the same myself.Great ideal .Congratulations on your new journey
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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Thank you, Sarah. Congratulations to you as well! Smiley smile Less stress and more time to focus on the two of you.
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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    We're having our party for our intimate wedding a week or two after. Maybe longer.....We don't know yet, lol.
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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    See I wish we could do that, but I want his family to be able to make it as well since they are already making the trip out to California. It feels so rushed but at least it will be a nice send off haha

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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
    Adrianna ·
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    We had a private ceremony and a big reception too!! Wouldn't have had it any other way.
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  • D
    Beginner August 2018
    Danielle ·
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    We're having a courthouse wedding on a Friday with some friends/family followed by dinner, then the next day hosting a reception/celebration at a bar that we rented out. We're getting married in a few weeks and sent out invites in May I believe. Our wording was something like "We're Tying the Knot!" then said that we would be getting married in a private ceremony on X date and then something like "You're invited to celebrate with us on X date" and explained it would be a cocktail party with appetizers. I can't remember the wording now, but basically we let everyone know we were getting married a day beforehand and they were invited to come party with us the next day.

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  • FutureStephD
    Super March 2019
    FutureStephD ·
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    Yes. This might help: https://www.brides.com/story/reception-only-wedding-invitation-wording

    And IMO for the ceremony invitation: Your presence is requested at the marriage ceremony of Jaclyn to FH on xxx date at xxx time.

    (You could include: reception on xxxx at xxxxx at xxxxx)

    For the reception invitation: You're invited to celebrate the marriage of Jaclyn to FH on xxx date and xxx. (OR You're invited to a reception celebrating the marriage of Jaclyn to FH....) People might ask if you're already married or when you're getting married, it's okay to tell them you're doing a private ceremony a few days before.

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    Just Said Yes November 2018
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    We are having a large reception (approx. 135 guests) the day after our small ceremony (20 guests). The front of the invitation reads "Please join us as we celebrate the marriage of Name and Name" as well as the time and date for the reception. The back of the invitation details out that on Friday, November 2nd "Name and Name will be married in an intimate ceremony in the mountains near Name of City". Then under Saturday, November 3rd it details out the reception with address and everything.

    All this information was already on our website when we did our e-STD's so there shouldn't be surprises when people get the invitations. Of course all guests have already been informed of the plans by us or our parents. The people who are invited to the ceremony are aware who they are so I didn't feel the need to do a separate invitation.
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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Ah that’s perfect! Exactly what we want to do but our reception would be more casual like on the beach in San Diego where most of my friends are. Do you know how we would word that? My parents think it would be weird to say it’s a “reception” because I meant there would be food but nothing special you know? Like they would rent out a little beach house but nothing super fancy.
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  • L
    Expert October 2018
    Linda ·
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    I have a friend having thier reception 5 months after thier elopement. So no it’s fine.
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  • jaclynhannahxo
    Savvy June 2019
    jaclynhannahxo ·
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    Thank you so much!! That is super helpful! You don’t think it’s tacky or anything if the “reception” is more laid back and casual though like on the beach with my parents renting a little house and then some food?
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    Beginner August 2018
    Danielle ·
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    Yeah, I get your dilemma. I think we said join us for a cocktail reception to celebrate our marriage! Or something along those lines and now I think maybe reception wasn’t the proper wording because we’re also not doing any “wedding activities”, we will have a couple toasts but other than that it’s just food and booze. but really reception just means to celebrate an event.

    You could say something similar to what I said but use party instead of reception. As long as you’re making it clear that it’s NOT an invite to witness the ceremony you’re fine.
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  • D
    Beginner August 2018
    Danielle ·
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    Also, it IS special even if it’s laid back and you aren’t doing the traditional wedding stuff, don’t down play it just because what you’re doing may not be considered normal!
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