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Dedicated September 2020

Recently lost my engagement band

Yasmin, on June 7, 2020 at 4:42 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 55
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Hello ladies,


I have lost my brand new engagement band fee days ago, most probably in the office.
I have been looking for it with no success. I have filed a police report with the details of the band and the GIA certificates of its diamonds.
Unfortunately, as the band was new it wasn’t insured yet. I didn’t inform my husband yet that I lost it.
Please advise what shall I do??!!Recently lost my engagement band 1Recently lost my engagement band 2

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Latest activity by Yasmin, on June 14, 2020 at 12:55 PM
  • Mrsjimenez👰
    Dedicated November 2020
    Mrsjimenez👰 ·
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    I would just be honest and let him know what happened. Unfortunately, if it wasnt insured and you havent found it after a few days you probably wont find it. With a ring that beautiful I doubt someone would turn it in. I am super sorry this happened to you but try not to be super hard on yourself as accidents happen. I have lost my engagement ring about 3 times over a period of 3 years lol I'm not glad to say it but I am very good at losing or misplacing a lot of my items like keys, wallet and phone. I'm just glad when I've lost or should I say misplaced my ring it's always been in my house or my fiance's house. I hope you are able to find it but I would just let your future husband in on what happened just incase you dont. Good luck!
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    Yes it’s beautiful indeed!!


    He gave it to me the night before and wanted to show it to my colleagues at work. Then later during the day it wasn’t in my finger anymore....
    I don’t dare tell him I lost it!! It cost him 90k!!!
  • K
    Devoted August 2020
    Kate ·
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    Isn’t he going to notice that the ring isn’t on your finger? The right thing to do is to tell him, no matter how much it cost - I don’t really see how that’s relevant. It’s a ring that he gifted you and he will notice. It’s probably better to tell him rather than wait for him to notice. You made a mistake and you should own up to it.
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    I'm not sure how to tell him

    He will definitely notice as next weekend we have a party and expecting me to wear my diamonds
  • Laura
    Super September 2020
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    Keeping it a secret will be a really bad move. Tell him. If you have to tell him over the phone ... But, you have to tell him. And, specifically, while there's time for him to feel like he can do something - even if he can't. He'd want the choice.

  • Y
    Dedicated September 2020
    Yasmin ·
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    What can he do??
  • K
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    Kate ·
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    You are in a very difficult position and I am sorry you’re having to deal with it. I’m sure you feel horrible about losing the ring. There is still hope it will turn up and I’ll say a prayer for that! I think as long as you are honest and he knows you are truly heartbroken over it, it’ll be okay. Best of luck to you!
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    Thanks a lot!!!


    I hope I find it as it's part of my diamonds sets that I received from him

  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    You have to tell him; this is not an option. It's not a decision; you have to tell him. You should have told him as soon as it happened. It's concerning that you want to hide this for so long from someone who should be your best friend.

  • Y
    Dedicated September 2020
    Yasmin ·
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    He will get angry
  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I understand that, but there is no excuse for lying about it, especially considering you can't do anything about it. You can't come up with another one or buy another one, so you have to say something eventually, and the longer you hide it the worse it will be. Situations like this are difficult, but lying to your partner (lying includes omissions like this IMO) is never okay, especially about something that you can't fix/has a big consequence.

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    Yasmin ·
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    He will know next weekend as he expects me to wear all my diamond jewelry including the band
  • H
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    Hannah ·
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    While I agree with what Elizabeth is saying, I want to ask....are you afraid of him getting angry because of how he respond when he is angry? Are you worried for your safety?
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    No not afraid of my safety but I'm afraid about our relationship
  • H
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    Hannah ·
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    The longer you keep this from him, the worse impact it will probably have. Think about it. If something similar happened for him and you only learned about it several weeks after the incident, would you be more upset that he was keeping it from you or that he lost the thing?
  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    Hannah makes a great point - if you're worried for your safety, this is a bigger issue and you need to talk to a professional and keep yourself safe.

    If this is really just about a big fight, I'm sticking to what I said. You cannot keep hiding it and expect a better outcome; it just won't happen that way. He shouldn't find out the day he expects you to wear all of it. You need to tell him in advance and give him time to process.

  • Courtney
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    Courtney ·
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    Like everyone has said, you’ll have to have a tough but honest conversation with him. Did he tell you that it wasn’t insured yet? Are you positive he didn’t take out a policy before he gave it to you? Of course he’ll be upset but your relationship and future marriage shouldn’t be on the line over an accident, no matter how much the ring was.
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    That's true
  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    I will try telling him



  • Y
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    Yasmin ·
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    Not insured yet!!


    He advised me not to wear my jewelry to work but I wore all of them

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