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Received an rsvp from a guest that wasn’t invited...what to do?

Katrina, on June 1, 2019 at 2:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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So I sent out invitations to my Dad’s side of the family as a nice gesture for my Dad even though I don’t know them. One of my aunts was invited, but apparently she cannot come, so instead my cousin and his girlfriend are going. The interesting thing is that I HAVE NO CLUE who who my cousin is or his girlfriend because I never met them (weird family situations...). I also ONLY invited my aunt, his mother/my father’s sister. I think she might be sending him in her place....but I personally think it is a VERY awkward move.

What should I do here?? Do I contact my aunt/cousin and say he can’t go? Please help!

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Latest activity by May, on June 5, 2019 at 2:32 AM

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Alycia · on June 1, 2019 at 2:44 PM
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How awkward. Perhaps your cousin wants to meet you and your side of the family. He probably wants to bring his gf because he won't know anyone there. If it's not too expensive, I'd just embrace the idea of meeting my cousin. If the cost is a worry, talk to your dad about possibly helping cover his nephew.
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Fmv · on June 1, 2019 at 3:12 PM
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How strange! People are so gutsy and rude sometime. I would contact the aunt you did invite and tell her the invite was meant for her only, and that the invite was not extended to the cousin.
Or if you have contact info or facebook for teh cousin and tell them directly.
Sooo odd, that if you never met this cousin why on earth would they want to or try to come to your wedding.
Stick to what you want and dont give in to this odd situation lol
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karen · on June 1, 2019 at 3:43 PM
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People are rude. Call them and say very sorry if misunderstanding (which is bull, you were totally clear), but invites were not transferrable.
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Caytlyn · on June 1, 2019 at 4:11 PM
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Agree with this.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on June 1, 2019 at 7:06 PM
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Ugh, some people hate a lot of nerve! Yes, contact your aunt or cousin and talk to them about this. The invite was for her, not for your cousin!
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Kelly · on June 1, 2019 at 9:38 PM
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Rude! I'd contact the aunt and say invites are not transferible
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Stacie · on June 1, 2019 at 11:36 PM
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Sort of similar situation here. My mom (who passed away 11 years ago) had a falling out with her entire side of the family when I was a very young child. Turns out FH Best Man's father is one of my distant cousins on my mom's side through marriage. They unofficially adopted my fh so my distant cousin and his wife are basically my honorary in laws. Anyways I now have relatives from my mom's side of the family who I maybe have met once when I was a small child contacting me on Facebook asking if they can come to the wedding and bring a guest!
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May · on June 5, 2019 at 2:32 AM
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You need to talk to your aunt. Just politely tell her that you really wish she would have asked before she sent someone in her place. If you really don't want your cousin at the wedding ask your aunt to pass on the information. Its her mess, she needs to clean it up. If you don't care just welcome them with open arms.
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