REALLY Uneven Bridal Party

In the grand scheme of things it won't matter one bit. Uneven sides should not affect anything.

It will be fine. Google images of uneven wedding parties and see. I've seen lots of photos, and they're just as nice.

Sure, in the grand scheme of things in the universe, we're all just dust in the wind and whatnot. But aesthetics and balance are important to us for our ceremony and pictures. So I'm looking for specific advice about layout and organization to make something seemingly uneven appear more balanced.

No problem! Just shuffle people around for pictures if you want to be in the middle, or give your photographer a heads up and see if they come up with something creative.

Ask your photographer...? They deal with this all the time.

"But aesthetics and balance are important to us for our ceremony and pictures."

That sentence rubs me the wrong way. These are people you're talking about and that makes them sound like you view them as props. I get wanting balance, but it just reads weird to me.

I'd discuss your concerns with the photographer. They deal with this all the time.

If you put yourselves in the middle, one girl on each side, and then the groomsman on either side somewhat evenly would that work?

I agree with herecometheclarks. One girl on each side and groomsmen split on each side for pics

Are any of the groomsmen mutual friends by chance? My wedding party is mixed gendered and I have some ladies in suits as well. Just saying that if they were mutual friends some of yours could be bridesmen rather than groomsmen... maybe?

So far I'm hearing "google it" and "ask someone else" :p . What about having a platform for a back row of guys to stand one instead of one long row? Or having 4 of them sit down during the ceremony? (Is that super mean to do? ) Or having half of my guys stand on her side? And I think the pictures of 2 guys on each side a girl look a little intimidating for the middle participant.

-Sorry for this comment being delayed after some responses that pre-answered these questions. Thanks everyone!!

If you have them sit down during the ceremony, why are you even asking them to be groomsmen? Yes, that's "super mean."

I agree with Jay. It sounds like you're using them as props.

I have 3 and he has 7. (Between us we have 5 brothers).

His best man will be standing at the altar with him and then each girl will walk down the aisle with 2 guys.

I am not too worried about how pics will look, I figured we would mix up the guys and gals in different poses. I'm not too worried about it.

Depending on the relationships among these people and between your groomsmen and your bride... yes, any of those things would work. Only you and your photographer know what works in your specific situation, which is why you're being told to consult with them and get an idea of how different arrangements look.

I would not ask anyone to sit, but you could definitely move people around as you see fit.

ETA: This is probably something you're overthinking and can figure out at your rehearsal.

"doubling as the officiant"?

great choice. See, if you had a pro? They could untangle this for you. I know that's not what you asked, but it's part of what we do.

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Yeah like @Celia said, that's a whole other issue altogether. Also, are you saying the bride and groom would be intimidated by their wedding party next to them in a picture?

I think herecometheclarks gave a great suggestion as far as how to pose the photos.

If any of these guys are mutual friends, could you have some of them stand on her side at the ceremony?

Yes, it's rude AF to have some of your GM sit down during the ceremony. Why on earth would you even ask them to be in your party if they won't be standing up with you - that's their entire job.

I think you could make it look fine with uneven sides. You could have the groomsmen and bridesmaids sit if you were worried about them standing up with you. Everyone can walk down the aisle alone. The photographer will arrange everyone for the photos so the sides are more even.

However, how does future wife feel about this? If she feels uncomfortable about the idea of you having so many more groomsmen, I'd cut down your numbers (ETA: if they were not yet invited to be groomsmen). Alternatively, are there any siblings/cousins she could add? I think the awkwardness here comes less from the aesthetics and more from people assuming she doesn't have enough friends (it's mean to assume/judge but people do).

Lyla, cut down the numbers? Like ask someone to step down? No. So rude.

Yes. If you have officially asked them, you obviously cannot ask them to step down of course. I wasn't clear on whether you had asked.