Really don’t want to share a hotel room with a friend...

Next time she brings it up. “I am sorry but we are looking forward to relaxing and getting ready together ahead of the wedding and as a COUPLE generally wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing a room.” How odd, does she even know your FH?

Like you said, I know hotels can be expensive so perhaps she can find someone else to split with?

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I completely understand your point but splitting a room with other couples in which you may have multiple rooms in the suite and splitting a room with a single person in a basic hotel room is completely different. Her wording may not have been the best but you do see that right?

Tell your friend your not interested and to see if there’s another friend she could share a room with. Single occupancy is always more expensive so I understand why she’s asking. If she can’t find anyone maybe she can ask bride or groom if they have any single friends who need someone to room with.

I no it’s not unreasonable and there are very few people I would do it with for all the same reasons you listed. The answer is no you just have to tell her. You don’t even have to give reasons unles you wish. No is no.

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Yes I see that. But I also see a lot of really entitled people on here commenting about how it was so rude of the single person to even ask and even equating it to being super creepy which is also just as ridiculous and frankly why this thread to me is kind of offensive. I've split a room with another couple and another single friend when it was just a hotel room and not a suite, it wasn't a big deal.

I get not wanting to do it and wanting a weekend away, but acting like this girl was totally in the wrong for even asking is completely untrue. She asked, seemingly politely, the first time, OP didn't give a straight answer so she has asked a few more times trying to get an answer. This does not make the girl that asked rude. If OP doesn't want to split the room, she can say no, that would also not be rude. But giving a non definitive answer to someone is always rude - especially if that person is waiting on the answer to figure out budget and perhaps if she can even afford to attend the wedding.

EDIT (Because my computer froze): I see you aren't saying that she is rude, that is more just a rant on the rest of the thread, not you in particular. Its morning and I haven't had my coffee yet... haha

No. You aren’t being unreasonable. Just tell her no.

No this is NOT unreasonable! I think it’s unfair and inconsiderate of your friend to impose herself on you and your FH! It’s also inappropriate unless you volunteered this. I would politely suggest she room with another friend or just tell her you two were looking forward to that time alone. There’s nothing to questions there! 😊

ALRIGHT sorry guys, didn’t mean to start drama or offend people about this haha, I’m sorry if I did! To clarify, there is of course nothing wrong with sharing rooms to save money and in certain situations I actually would appreciate doing that, I was just trying to see if it was weird of me to NOT want to, or if other people would feel the same way!

To clarify the situation more too, the wedding is in a restaurant, they’ve specifically asked for either no gifts or for money to be donated to certain charities, and there’s like tons of hotels in the area that aren’t very expensive. I think the one we plan to stay at is $200 per night but using points it won’t be that much, and there’s lots of hotels that are even less in the area too, so it’s not like it would be a huge financial strain to pay for a room alone.

Again, would just like to emphasize, the reason I kept putting off my friend’s question and being vague about it is because I really didn’t want to share a room but was wondering if I was being unreasonable or not for not wanting to. All I meant for this post to be was basically to see if other people would feel similarly and reassure me that it wasn’t just me that felt weird about it before I flat out told her no.

I appreciate the feedback and I’m sorry if I offended anyone by not articulating clearly! It was not my intention!

View Quoted Comment I think it’s a little different when it’s couples splitting a room. It’s a bit intrusive and weird (to me) when it’s a “3rd wheel” trying to stay in a room not a suite with you and your SO. I don’t think she intended it to be condescending.

View Quoted Comment Disregard my comment. Didn’t see this one before responding to your other comment.

I'd just tell her you are making it a romantic weekend with your fiance so you'd rather not share a room!

This is weird to me. Why would she want to share a room with a couple?

Just say no, firmly.

Yeeesh this gets weird really fast. I was once invited to share a room with my friend and her boyfriend. Months before the trip it seemed OK, but then as the trip got closer and closer I realized I'd feel completely uncomfortable sharing a single room with a couple. They'd be sleeping together... in the bed next to mine. I promptly declined because that felt like I was invading their privacy.

Can you politely just tell her no, you guys are getting a room with just one bed and you don't want to share the room, and leave it at that?

I feel like this is one of those situations where you really shouldn't have to justify your decision, but if she asks anyway just be honest and say it's awkward to share a couple's bedroom with a third person, and you'd like to spend time with your FH.

Maybe you can recommend someone else for her to bunk with?

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I think sharing rooms must be an American thing. I see lots of posts on Tripadvisor's European fora about parents sharing rooms with teenage or grown-up children and the reaction is mostly one of disgust at the penny-pinching attitude. If you can't afford to travel, don't travel.