Ready to throw in the tear soaked towel...

Only you can pull youself out of the sadness, Love. I will definitely be praying for you and/or sensing good vibes. Focus on getting to marry your partner. Thats very exciting itself. I'm so sorry for the plans being ruined by COVID.

We were also originally on 10.10.20 (and postponed to 10.30.21). I’m so sorry to hear that so much has been going on in your life recently. But, as you said, the wedding is planned. So since there’s no more that has to be done in that area, I wouldn’t even focus on that right now. We have nothing left to plan either (except the smaller things that are necessary closer to the date). For me, it’s great... especially with life the way it is right now. Also, if you feel that eloping would bring you some joy, you should do it and have the other celebration you planned in April. But, keep in mind that even outside of Covid, life isn’t perfect and doesn’t always go as planned anyway.

It’s been a rough year for most people.
One thing I learned through the chaos is appreciation.
We had over 50 guests booked, we were basically packed and awaiting our international destination wedding and then the world shut down. Thankfully, we only lost $1,000 and everyone got full refunds back. Meanwhile, the oncologist told my MIL she would barely make it to our May wedding. The entire first half of the year was devastating. I lost my 6-figure job because I chose to wear a mask a week before it became a state mandate. My now husband, (as of September) got me through the rough patches and it was then I realized what was truly important - our union in marriage. We planned an intimate castle garden wedding (which happened to be within appropriate travel distance for the MIL) and had 20 of our closest friends and family there. Not everyone could attend and we did not care. It was the most magical day. Keep your vision on what is most important and it’ll come to fruition. 🤍🤍🤍

Its okay to cry. Its okay to feel lost, upset, angry, and disappointed. You are allotted all of that during this time. BUT:

- Being Cancer free is certainly a celebration no matter the date

- You and your fiance have each other and your children; that is the basis and as long as you have each other, storms will not be able to break you

- You're not alone in having your life shifted by Covid. TBH I'm happy to be alive after catching it in August.

Here is a virtual hug to you and a shoulder for you to cry on. I'm getting married in April during a minimony too but my big celebration will be 10.17.2021.

Its all going to be okay. I pray your peace of mind, healing, and good thoughts for the future.

We all have had a crappy year due to covid.

Congratulations on being cancer-free! That is awesome. It is just a date. It's okay to be upset about it, but it is not okay to feel sorry for yourself (for too long, if you need a few days, it's okay). You can still celebrate this at home with wine, dessert, dinner, games.

This was the year I was supposed to achieve my goals, go on my honeymoon to Hawaii after 3 years of marriage, and finally, start solidifying my long-time career goals, and now I am starting over. If you are really bummed about the date, you can reschedule your ceremony to NEXT October.

Keep your chin up. One of the things that has really helped keep me in good spirits, is my faith and being grateful for all of the things I DO have.

I have a roof over my head with heat, I have my wonderful husband, our adorable little puppy, and my husband still has his job. I have gotten to see my family more than I have in years and I got to go on vacation with my inlaws. I am so blessed.

So, just think of what you do have.

You have your children

You have your fiance/husband

You have a place to live

You have food to eat.

You have decent healthcare it seems.

Your friends and family will still be your friends and family in April. But now you can start replanning a honeymoon or something. Give yourself SOMETHING to look forward to.

Breathe. It's all going to be okay.

Life is tough, but so are you. Hugs to you.

I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. I would just do whatever feels right for you. It has been pretty hard to be a “Blissful Bride” during a pandemic. On the plus side congratulations on being cancer free! 🎉 Hugs to you. 💕