Ready to cancel

I am sorry to hear about your family's tragedy and am glad that things have since gotten better. As someone who has just recently gotten married and dealt with A LOT of unsolicited advice/overstepping, let me give you some advice: this wedding is about YOU and FS - nobody else. It sounds to me like all of the current issues are those with family and not FS, so if they're overstepping, let them know. If they're overwhelming you, let them know. Put your foot down! Have the wedding you want, whether that's big, small, elopement, etc. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is marrying your FS.

I agree with PP. make this about you and your FH and keep everyone else out of it. Don’t involve then if they overstep boundaries. Plan the wedding that the two of you want and don’t worry about others. Good luck!

You could have a very intimate wedding...just you and FH or just a few close family/friends.

it can be very overwhelming. I’m sorry.

Don't involve anyone but FH until they are needed, as this will save you time and heartache. If the two of you plan it yourselves, you won;t have a peanut gallery questioning all your decisions!

The first 3 months of our engagement were the most difficult of our whole relationship. This was completely due to people overstepping. I set firm boundaries now, and things are back to normal. My advice to you is yes it's normal to feel overwhelmed... but set boundaries and the best way to do this is to tell.people.less.information. Honestly, it changed everything for me.

I would put things on pause for a month or two before planning on spending anymore money on the wedding. Let yourself and your FH relax, and think over the options before jumping to a decision.

I think if you’ve always dreamt of a wedding, don’t cancel it. Maybe see if you can postpone it. If you’ve always wanted, I would guess you want to cancel because things are overwhelming right now. Which is totally normal! Just don’t make a long term decision like that over something you’re feeling temporarily.

I'm sorry to hear you're having so many issues and so much stress. Maybe you could pick up planning in a month or so when things have calmed down. Or you could do a small intimate destination wedding. I was looking up honeymoon ideas and BEACHES Resorts by Sandals actually has a thing where if you stay more than 3 nights, you get a free wedding. I almost cancelled my own wedding to do that. It's so beautiful. Either way, I hope you and your fiancé can find something that makes you both happy