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Reader-- honor or consolation prize?

Rachel, on December 6, 2016 at 3:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Hey all! My wedding party is comprised of my siblings and friends who I have known since childhood. I have other close friends who I wanted to include, but if I included everyone I felt close to, it would have gotten a little out of hand. Though no solid decisions have been made, my FW and I have picked two passages that we like and want read at our ceremony, and we are each going to pick someone to read one of the passages. I have a college friend I was going to ask (a few months from now), but my FW said it would look like a "consolation prize" for her not being in the wedding. This is not at all the impression I want to give; I had thought doing a reading was an honor. What do you think; would you be honored if a friend asked you to read a passage in the ceremony? Or should readings be kept to people such as older relatives, who would not think they'd be a bridesmaid anyhow? Thank you in advance!

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Latest activity by OriginalKD, on December 6, 2016 at 5:28 PM
  • Krystal
    Expert July 2017
    Krystal ·
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    Don't really have advice here but I'm in the same situation.

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  • brieliz
    VIP January 2017
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    My aunt cried when I asked her she was so happy.

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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
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    I asked a close friend to do a reading who, if FH and I didn't have so many siblings, would've been a bridesmaid. I think it's an honor.

    Just don't make them the guestbook attendant.

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  • Holly
    Master February 2017
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    Unless you chose them for the party and THEN decided to make them a reader, I would still consider it an honor.

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  • P
    Savvy January 2017
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    I think it would be nice to be picked for that. You seem to have good intentions behind it. I would ask them to do it. Its still making them a part of your big day. If it were me, I would be honored to do it.

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  • AlwaysMs.
    VIP May 2018
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    Not at all a consolation prize! I have enjoyed reading much more than being in the bridal party. I get to wear what I want, and it's a performance opportunity for people who enjoy that. I don't have to spend hours upon hours taking pictures with the bridal party and I get to just enjoy the day. Reading is all the fun of being a part of the wedding with substantially less expense, less annoyance, less drama, and less time commitment. Your people will be thrilled!

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  • MAMW
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    I'd be honored if one of my friends asked me to do a reading in their wedding!

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  • R
    Beginner November 2017
    Rachel ·
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    Thank you so much for you advice :-) I will stick with my original plan and ask her :-)

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    We asked my best friend to read at our wedding and he said he felt really honored. I don't think it's a consolation prize.

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  • Celia Milton
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    I think it's an honor; not everyone wants to be in the bridal party.

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  • Kathleen
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    I think it's an honor. My very best friends are guys and I am going to ask them to read at my wedding (even though they demanded to be bridesmen). They get play an important role in your special day, I don't see that as being a consolation prize.

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  • KSera
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    I also think its an honor. I asked my brother and he was touched to participate. I think its a very meaningful "task" (for lack of a better word).

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  • OriginalKD
    Master December 2015
    OriginalKD ·
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    I think it's an honor

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