Reaching out to those who haven't RSVP'd

I think it's common to reach out. I've read other comments here where people have done that.

Always contact the non-responders. It's silly to waste money paying for people who have no intention of attending, but are too rude to respond.

Wait until your rsvp date has passed, then contact them. Choose your wording carefully. Don't just tell them you need to hear from them. They already know that.

"I'm contacting you because our rsvp date has passed and our caterer needs final numbers. If you are unable to commit, we will have to consider you a no, and will miss you at the wedding."

If you have to leave a message, give them 24 hours to respond or (same message).

We had to reach out to some people. You need a final number, so asking if someone is attending or not is much needed information.

Wait till the RSVP date has passed then contact

We absolutely reached out (two or three times for some. Some we never did hear back from).

Looks like we are getting married the same day. I started reaching out today to people and most were busy and spaced. Some said they never received the invite so I was so happy I did reach out.

I'm getting married a week later than you! Yes, you should reach out to people. We started by confirming they even got the invitation - the mail can do crazy things sometimes - but that gave me a foot in the door and didn't make it seem pushy. We still have about 20 non-respondents, but I'm not worrying about it. There will be room for them at the tables that are less than full if they just happen to show up, but I'm not expecting them to, and since we are having a buffet reception there will be enough food. I'm still getting RSVPs (got 3 yesterday) and the RSVP date was 15 days ago. At least most of the late ones (not all) are No's to the reception, which is what matters.

If your RSVP date is passed then you should reach out. If it hasn't passed yet then you should wait.

Definitely reach out to anyone who hasn't responded once the deadline has passed. I gave it a few days to see if any responses were coming in the mail before I started reaching out to people.

Nothing wrong with contacting them, as long as your rsvp date has passed.

We waited about a week after rsvp's were due and then reached out to everyone