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Ana
Beginner May 2025

Re asking my friends??

Ana, on April 16, 2024 at 8:55 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16
I just got engaged last month and my wedding would be on April next year. I was engaged with my ex back in 2017 but he cancelled the wedding. I felt so embarrassed for the people that was in the wedding party. My bridesmaids spending money on their dresses. And now that I just got engaged with an amazing man, I feel like ashamed to ask my friends to be my bridesmaids. Should I ask them? Or how ? Would it be tacky to ask them again?

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Latest activity by Ana, on April 17, 2024 at 12:06 PM
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    Not tacky, but I would pay for their dresses this time around if you didn’t or couldn’t back then.
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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you 😊, that’s a good idea. Buying the dresses this time.
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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
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    I completely agree with this - if buying their dresses is in your budget, that would be a kind gesture. It is certainly not tacky to ask the same friends again to be in your wedding party for this wedding.
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    Alternatively, you can always just let them wear what they like.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    I would also wait until closer to the wedding to ask your bridal party. Like around 6-8 months, because things do change in relationships and in wedding planning. Offering to buy the attire is a good idea for sure.

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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
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    First of all, congratulations on finding the right match for you! This is an exciting time, and i’m sure your friends are excited to celebrate with you! There is definitely no need to feel ashamed asking them to be your bridesmaids! However, since they did already spend money on your previous event that didn’t happen, I would pay for their dresses this time around (and anything else they may have paid for last time).
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated June 2024
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    Congratulations!

    Your friends I'm sure are elated that you've found your person and I bet they'll be thrilled to be a part of your day!

    I agree that if it's in your budget to pay for or help finance the dresses that's a great idea but if you can't, definitely don't feel obligated to. There are a ton of reasonable websites and places to find dresses under $100 and I think having an open conversation with your friends about trying to keep prices down will go a long way.

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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you 😊 for your advice.
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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you for your input Smiley smile
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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you Cece for your advice 😊
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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you 😊! And yes I been looking into websites to see different prices and to keep it down 100 or around that range. If you know a website please share. Have a great week Smiley smile.
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    Just Said Yes January 2025
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    Real friends stick by you no matter what. I'm sort of in the same boat and my friends are happy for me. So ask them again ❤️
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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you 💝! Congrats on your engagement.
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    Just Said Yes January 2025
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    Thanks and same to you!!
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated June 2024
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    Lulus has an awesome selection under $100, Azazie, Zara, Petal and Pup, and Birdie Grey (these prices start at $99, so they're a little pricier than the others).

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  • Ana
    Beginner May 2025
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    Thank you Lauren for passing along this information. 😊 you are awesome!
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