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Aida
Devoted August 2020

Rant.

Aida, on June 18, 2020 at 7:58 PM Posted in Community Conversations 2 59
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Can I just rant for a second? Feel free to ignore this, I just want to express myself a little. We we supposed to get married this last May, but because of COVID-19, we rescheduled for August and I started moving on from the grief of the initial wedding date and started looking forward to August. Things were starting to look optimistic again. But now cases of the virus have started spiking again in my state because people seem to think that because we're reopened, things are normal and COVID isn't around anymore and are more comfortable ignoring social distancing, having parties and not wearing masks. So frustrating. So today my FH started asking me about coming up with a plan C. Rescheduling the reschedule. I don't think I can do it again. I invested so much time, money and energy to the initial date that to do it again would just put me over the edge. Why? Why is this happening to me? To us? Why are we the abnormal ones? We already had to cancel our honeymoon indefinitely. So I'm not getting an honeymoon this year, am I not getting a wedding this year either? I've been planning this wedding since 2018. So yeah, I'm sad. I'm not saying the world revolve around me and my wedding and that's all that matters, no. But I cant help but to look back on my friends' past weddings or look to future ones where the virus didn't exist or will no longer exist and think, why wasn't mine this easy.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I’m sorry to hear Smiley sad I know it must be discouraging to feel like you just want your day and it’s not happening the way you’d want ideally. I hope everything works out! Best wishes.
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  • Kerin
    Rockstar February 2021
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    ::hugs:: I'm so sorry you're going through this. It will be ok, and even if you have to do a plan C, no one can tell you you can't schedule a big party, wear the dress, and treat it like the reception of your dreams. Your feelings are VALID and you should express them. tenor.gif

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  • Taylor
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Hugs, I totally get it, I feel the same way!

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  • Alisha
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    I'm right there with you . We were scheduled for June 7 and then asked by the venue to move to August 2 . Now as of last week we were moved to october 11. It is stressful and takes all the fun out of everything. I totally understand and can relate. Bridal shower , bachelorette , and honeymoon canceled. And everyone feels the need to give their opinion. I'm at the point like is it even worth the stress! We have been engaged since 2018 too. You are not alone . Hang in there !
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  • A
    Savvy August 2020
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    In the same boat. Supposed to get married 5/30, pushed to 8/9. Really don’t want to postpone again. Luckily we’re in a state that has been slow to reopen, so the cases keep going down. I’ve cried about it so much that now I’m just kinda over it. We’re definitely getting married 8/9 and we will see what happens with the celebration.
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  • Jessica
    VIP September 2020
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    I totally get it ☹️. Our plan a, b and c ceremony locations are closed through the end of the year due to COVID-19. Its so frustrating! We decided to get married with just the four of us if we have to postpone, and celebrate with everyone next year if we can. I can’t help wishing I’d decided to get married last September and cram planning into seven months instead of pushing it to 2020. You are definitely not alone in your feelings. Take care.
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  • Kathryn
    Rockstar August 2020
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    Yeah, I feel you girl. I'm just so stressed. We were scheduled for 4/4, but we rescheduled for 8/15 thinking that had to be enough time. Now cases are spiking again, and I keep having panic attacks about moving the date again. All we wanted was our fairly small and intimate wedding - if we have to postpone again, idk what I'll do. We eloped on our day, so I may tell my husband we'll do a vow renewal when it makes sense in a few years. Or not at all - I'm just ready to be married and done with planning. It's all been too much, especially knowing that 2020 has been the least predictable year ever. I just, ugh. It doesn't seem fair- I get that totally. And like you I find myself just so upset that we have to wait a whole year possibly for the big ceremomy.
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  • L
    Devoted September 2020
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    We postponed from April to August and I feel the same way. Looking back I dont know why I thought everything would be better by August, I think I was just so stressed and picked the first available date. I have also felt all those same emotions as you, we went to three weddings in 2019 and I keep thinking if only we got married last year this wouldnt have happened. But none of us couldve ever predicted this. But where were you planning on going for your honeymoon? Even though America is still having a lot of trouble with the virus most other countries are opening up. Can you postpone the wedding and go on your honeymoon?
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  • Aida
    Devoted August 2020
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    We honestly always wanted to get married in 2020 as a start of a new decade to start our lives together. As far as my honeymoon goes, HA! It was supposed to be Japan 😑. I don’t know what to do or think.
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  • Michelle
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I know the feeling. We were supposed to tie the knot June 7, now August 9. With our dream venue placing restrictions and how hot it is going to be in August, we are looking into a possible new venue. Smiley sad
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  • Nefetera
    Rockstar March 2015
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    I'm sorry of what you going through.that does seem frustrating totally. Have you guys thought about eloping for now with a few ppl like parents sibling and may 1 close friend each. And then next year celebrate with having a big reception? Also you guys can plan the honeymoon for next year as well. Just so you guys are married for now nothing can stop that.
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  • L
    Devoted July 2020
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    I’m so sorry! I know this pain all to well! We are getting married on our original date July 17 because it holds meaning to us but now in my backyard. Everyone always joked to me you should have just had a backyard wedding it truly was never something my FH and I wanted but now we have no choice. I am trying to push the party at the venue that I originally had but I totally feel you on the fact of feeling like why did this happen to me and why couldn’t it go the way I wanted it also. I also have regrets of wishing I got married last year but you know what at the end of the day we could have never predicted something like this although it may feel very personal because believe me it does to me when you look at other people but it isn’t and no matter when you have it it will be beautiful and your marriage will be even stronger for it! Keep your head up I know it can be hard but you will get through it and be stronger for it💜
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  • Aida
    Devoted August 2020
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    Yeah we’ve thought of it. I just hate how that seems to be our only option. Like it’s not fair. No one else had to go through this last year or maybe the next year. If we elope and have our party next year, I worry that the novelty of us getting married will be over with lots of people and no one will come. Like how no one will come now with this virus. I’ll never win.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    That’s really heartbreaking and your feelings are totally understandable. I do hope that you can have your August wedding, that it’s still as amazing as ever and all of this will be behind you! Ranting is helpful and so many of us have done it. We just postponed our October 2020 wedding to next October 2021 after a tough conversation that included taking an honest look at the current state of the country: a new and deadly pandemic, people being careless and not wearing masks/distancing or taking it seriously, numbers rising with no successful treatment, protests everywhere and states reopening amidst it all, likely creating a spike (which it now is)... Yet still invite guests to travel to our destination wedding and stay the weekend🤔. My “bridal denial” didn’t want to face reality and believed we could still move forward. But after our conversation, it was glaringly clear that postponing was best. Even though it sucked, I’m strangely happy not thinking about the wedding right now and hope that life is better managed by next Fall. But, I can’t deny that I’ve wanted to kick myself a few different times for selecting 10/10/20 over 2/29/20 (leap year), which were the 2 dates we narrowed it down to. Wedding panning during covid definitely sucks and creates so many “why’s” and “what if’s”. So rant away because we’ve all had our moments and completely empathize with you!
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I'm so sorry Aida! I totally understand your feelings, and the prolonged uncertainty around the near-term future is agonizing! It's ok to rage, and keeping ranting away here! ❤️

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  • Danielle
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    My wedding was originally planned for May also. We rescheduled for October 2020, but like you there are to many uncertainties. So we changed it again for August, and changed the venue to our back yard. That way if anything happens we ARE still getting married.

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  • Martha
    Devoted October 2022
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    I am sorry hun, I really wish it was not happening. A honeymoon in Japan sounds amazing, I understand your heartbreak. I really hope that you consider rescheduling, it will be hard, but I believe after all this you deserve to have a wedding to celebrate that you made it through these hard times.

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  • Melissa
    Beginner June 2021
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    I understand your frustration just breath a little. It's happening all over the world in some places worst than others. Have all decided to maybe doing the Enloping package you still can have your beautiful day but maybe with fewer people and maybe think bout having a videographer so other Family members can enjoy your day. Just something to think bout
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  • Angelina
    Beginner August 2020
    Angelina ·
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    Awww I’m so sorry you are feeling that way and I emphasize with you. Hang in there!


    We decided to postpone a whole year and back in March, I wouldn’t have considered that at all but things keep changing and next year would make me less stressed.
    I hope things get a little better for you !
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  • E
    Devoted August 2020
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    I understand. I'm so sorry. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years. We got engaged last year. When we first got engaged, I kept telling people that I'm not stressed, and the only thing that would stress me out was if someone fainted at my wedding or if the place caught on fire. It didn't occur to me to put pandemic on that list!

    I'm supposed to get married in August. It's a go right now. I had no problems with postponing if needed. Last week, we found out that my dad has an advanced stage of lung cancer. I don't even know if he'll be around next year for me to postpone, so now it is absolutely NOT an option. My parents are older, and one of my worst nightmares is one of them dying before me getting married. 3 weeks ago, I didn't think it was possible that that could happen. I absolutely have to get married this year, no matter what now.

    My sister, who's my Matron of Honor, has been asking me what my opinion is on my bridal shower. It was supposed to be in April, but of course it was postponed. One bridesmaid wants to convert my shower into a full Zoom meeting. My sister asked what I wanted, and I don't want a Zoom meeting. I want to see people, if it's within the state's regulations (and since we're moving into Green, it will be). Maybe half in-person, and if other people are uncomfortable, it can be a Zoom meeting. I don't know. It just makes me sad that they even have to think about this.

    And then I feel really bad, because if we had gotten engaged like in 2018 instead, we could have avoided all this.

    Sorry for all the word vomit on your post. I guess I needed to rant too! Virtual hugs.

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