Rant my mother is being the wicked witch of the west

I'm so sorry your mother is being such a witch. You definitely don't deserve to be treated that way by anyone especially your own mother. I would recommend not evening discussing the wedding with her if she is going to be so negative. You don't need that type of behavior bringing you down. I would send her an invite and leave it at that. Lean on those that actually support you and your fiance.

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I agree with this. I would also remove her from all of your social media.

Ah that sucks.

i agree with pp it would be best to just not talk to her about the wedding but i can see that that's not the total issue - there's other things she's doing like talking badly about your FH and you.

if she does that again, i would set up some MAJOR boundaries like - STOP IT. cause it's also so rude of her to say things like that! she needs to know when to be tactful too.

You said it yourself. Your mother is toxic. My mother is also toxic. My mother will not be invited to my wedding because of her behavior. I feel like I can really relate to your situation because I only have my father and a few family members coming to my wedding. Everyone else as far as family goes will all be my FHs side and our friends. I understand you feel that it’s important to have a relationship with your mother, but the things that she is saying to your children can do damage to them. The things that she is saying to you is damaging to you. I don’t know the situation, but it’s sort of sounds like your mother is envious of you in a way. Who knows what she will try to do on your wedding day. I guess you have to ask yourself is it worth inviting your mother to your wedding day even if she potentially ruins the day for you?
Have you discussed this with your fiancé? What are his feelings of her?

Wow! I am so sorry she talks to you and treats you this way. It sounds to me like perhaps you may want to consider setting some boundaries, like removing her or limiting what she can see on your social media, how much you share with her, etc. You deserve better.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this, she sounds so horrible. I agree with ppl not to even talk to her about anything that involves your wedding. And I'd maybe reconsider even inviting her. I know you would like her there but at the end of the day it's your day and you shouldn't have to worry about what she will do at your wedding. I know you love her, but I believe that just because someone is blood doesn't mean they should have a spot in your life when they are a toxic person. It might be time to completely cut her out of your life all together. My fathers mother was toxic, she always treated my dad horrible. Then when my dad married my mom and they had us she treated all of us horribly. She has other kids and grandchildren that she puts on a pedestal but then treated us like we were garbage. After years of all of us dealing with it my dad finally cut her out of his life for good. And he is so much happier now, we all are. My dad says it's the best decision he's ever made.

I am sorry to say this but it seems like you keep including her hoping that she will change and the change has to come on her end. I am sorry she is being that way. You deserve love and if you found a good guy for you...ya know what I am happy for you. It sounds like she has to put people down because she is jealous. At this point as pp's have said remove her from social media and truthfully if she asks just say the last comment the last comment she made hurt her so you figure for the sake of your relationship best she not see any posts. At this point if you need to cut her from your life then you do so. Of course it will hurt but your her daughter and she does not deserve to put you down.

I am super happy for you and deserve all of the happiness you have with him.

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Thank you so much dj Tanner my fiance can't stand her because she is down right rude to him and makes him feel unwelcome to the family. whatever I decide on the subject he will support me .

I’m sorry you don’t have support from your mom during such a special time. If it were me I wouldn’t talk to her about the wedding at all and like others said unfriend her on social media. She seems to have unresolved issues with herself that she projects on you. For some some people it’s hard to be happy for others when their unhappy with themselves or their own life. It’s important to protect your peace and what you take in from others.

My mom is not that bad but I can totally understand where you are coming from. My mom has yelled at me when I said only 50 people total can come and she wants to invite everyone in the world. She has also made comments about me fitting in to my wedding dress.....Shes my mom but she can be extremely mean and hurtful. I would just not talk about the wedding. I stopped telling my mom and she has said nothing since.

I completely understand my mother is just as bad if not worse, so my FW and I just cut her out of our life basically and she is most definitely NOT coming to the wedding! That is supposed to be a day full of happiness for you and your FH and the last thing you should have to deal with is a toxic family member trying to run it for you! I would block her from seeing all of your wedding post on social media and not discuss the wedding with her at all! I hope it all works out for you!