AHHHHHHHHHHHHH! So I asked my high school best friend to be my MOH last August. The wedding is this September. She lives in another province and would need to fly or drive out here. All around costs estimated to be $500 CAD at most, which included her dress, food, and transportation. Accommodation was free at my house. She was adamant from the beginning that she was going to take $20-$40 from each pay cheque to save for her flights or whatever. Cut to last month she's been complaining to me about how tight her finances have been (even though she literally just bought a brand new tv two weeks ago, a $1000 dog, she goes out to eat all the time, buys alcohol and cigarettes like they're going out of style, doesn't pay rent, works for her step-dad getting paid tax-free CASH under the table, etc.) so I decided to give her an out. I basically said if the financial strain was too much, just tell me now and she can bow out with no hard feelings. She firmly said no, she'll be there. So I buy all my bridesmaids gifts, some of which were personalized with her name on it and I can't return them. THEN THIS BIZNATCH HAS THE AUDACITY TO TEXT ME, NOT EVEN CALL ME, SHE SENDS ME A TEXT THAT SHE CAN'T COME BECAUSE SHE CAN'T AFFORD IT, WHEN LITERALLY THREE DAYS AGO SHE SAID SHE WAS GOING TO BUY HER PLANE TICKETS WITH HER BOYFRIEND'S (who has two kids with two different ex baby momma's that he hasn't seen in well over a year and doesn't pay a cent in child support) FIRST PAY CHEQUE AT HIS NEW JOB. She told me it was no trouble, all while blowing her money on new tv's and dogs and whatever the F else. This 26 year old woman couldn't save $500 over the course of a year to be there for her best friend's wedding, when I have been there for her through EVERYTHING. I've asked for literally NOTHING in return. Ever. This was literally the first time I've ever asked something of her. I'm so livid. As far as I'm concerned the friendship is done. She's so incredible irresponsible I simply can't take it anymore. We're 8 weeks out and this messes up a ton of crap that I now have to deal with. I was never a priority from the start and I knew it.
For more context on how selfish this girl is, the DAY AFTER I got engaged, she suddenly calls me up all excited saying that her and her boyfriend were now planning on getting married out of the blue, even though he hadn't proposed, and she started tasking me with looking up wedding venues and pricing things out for her. Obviously that never happened and they're still not engaged. But she literally makes everything about her. I just need a good scream.