Rant! Maybe i am just wrong

Sorry to hear that happening. a lot of the times when it comes to weddings people will give their opinion or two cents even if it's not asked for aha. you just have to keep your ground for everything and say no or ignore, unfortunately.

Hi

I am sorry your going through this here is what I would say to both rants

rant 1: Like I previously communicated to you these head pieces are beautiful however I have deiced to go with another look I could give them back to you if you'd like

Rant 2: I appreciate you being so excited for my wedding but due to covid virus and other circumstances we have decided to keep the guest list small however I would love to go to lunch with you after the wedding and catch up

1. As I mentioned several times, these are beautiful but I'd like to go with a few pieces I chose for my dress. Here you go (return them).

2) "Family member" please tell "questioner" we haven't decided. I'm really stressed right now. Do you mind not sharing what other people are asking or wondering? I just need a break. Thank you so much.

Honestly, I just wouldn't respond to those types of things.

To the first person, I'd say, "I already have something, if you don't want these things, I will give them away. If you still want them, please take them back." They might find this rude, but they were rude first, by pushing things on you. If this person attempts to give you things again, say, "no, thank you" and change the subject.

To the second person, I simply wouldn't even respond. It's rude to ask if you're invited to someone else's wedding, even more so during a pandemic, and you don't owe them any answer. Your family member should change the subject.

If anyone pressures you, feel free to tell them to stop. It's over a boundary, it's a stressful time, and you do not owe anyone any answer of any kind.

I'm sorry you are going through this, I sometimes think people don't understand how stressful it can be to plan your wedding.

In the case of #1 - (As I had someone do this to me - except it was deciding WHERE to have my wedding) - I was finally very blunt as said my FH and I are evaluating some places and as soon as we have it confirmed, I'll share. (Also the same person has "jewerly" for my wedding day...) - To that I simply replied I've already chosen most of my jewerly (not a lie)

So for you, I'd kindly say, "Thank you for the pieces and I've gone through them several times, while they are beautiful they just don't go with the style I'm looking for. But I'll hold onto them in case I change my mind"

#2 - If this person can't come to you - then I'd just ignore the comments and move on. (I have no time for people that can't make time for me personally)

Before we finalized our guest list, our plan was to keep it just to family. We did extend it to some very close friends / co-workers. But before we made that final decision, I just let everyone know that our plans were to keep it intimate and family only. So that way no one would feel left out.

Bottom line is, it's your wedding and these times are stressful enough without Covid and add that to the mix, it's even more challenging. It's your wedding and you owe no one an answer except yourself and FH.