Rant: Children at weddings and family drama

Your mum or brother have no right to get shitty about this. And to stage a ‘well if my children aren’t invited, I will refuse to go,’ tantrum is kinda pathetic. No pay, no say.

I agree. I know they will go, nothing will be said to the couple, they will just grumble about it to us. I think my mother was just stirring. Got to love families.

Haha I had the same issue. My aunt was so pissed I didn't invite her grandkids... These are first cousins once removed. Besides her grandkids are terribly behaved. Everyone has a limit. I wasn't cutting friends to invite my cousin's kids... Can you imagine how many guests that could potentially add.

I didn't back down. Low and behold mommy and daddy found a babysitter. But my aunts entitlement was obnoxious.

Both my brothers practically begged me to have a kid free wedding. Then again they have 8 kids between the 2 of them and they can be quite the handful sometimes. FH and I are going kid free. Probably wont even have a flower girl or ring bearer. As much as we love our nieces and nephews we just dont want the kids around that day.

Your brother and mom have no reason to be upset over this. A lot of people choose kid free wedding for a variety of reasons. Some venues only discount the bar for kids meals and that gets exoenaive fast if there are a lot of kids. Some people juat dont like kids in gerneral. Whatever their reason, it is their choice and everyone else can deal with it. As long as they dont have some weird age cut off like 12 years and up are invited because then you run the risk of splitting families up and thats just rude. You either invited in circles (nieces and nephews only, your own kids), have all kids, or no kids.

Ive recently become a fan of the saying 'is this the hill you want to die on? ' when some of my family grumbles about silly stuff that hobestly really doesnt matter in the grand scheme of things.

This is the worst! Why don't people understand that some people don't want kids at their wedding!

We aren't having kids at our wedding, families are already big not including nieces and cousins kids.Our headcount is crucial and as of now we can't even invite friends til someone they not coming.

Well it won't be a kid free wedding, there will be nieces and nephews at it, my mothers point I think was what's one more child when she is the only one left out on grooms side. I was trying to explain to my mum that we don't know perhaps the bride has cousins with kids and we all know you have to draw lines somewhere. I had family kids only. I had a few friends who had to make alternative arrangements for thier kids. It's the couples choice.