Random people asking for invitation

I have random fb "friends" who are like "I better get an invite!" ummm… NO?

Why would you ever say, "Missing my invite." Um, obviously you weren't invited. I would never. I would be like "Yes, that's $150 I don't have to pay out for the gift" Booyah! wtf people, wtf

FMIL is doing this with FH's new step family... Oh a relative married into your family? You must automatically treat me like family even with zero effort.

Nope... don't do it... we are not inviting FH's step siblings... we barely know them.... and in 5 years we have only gotten together maybe 5 times and we haven't gotten together for other 2 years.

Yeah i don't blame you, I wouldn't want people i don't know at my wedding. Plus how do people just assume they will be invited. Unreal lol

Why would she assume she would be invited?!? That kills me! I feel like that is beyond rude and i would have no issue telling them so

We took the "keep the peace route" which soared our guestlist from 70 to 90 AND now includes kids. After invites went out, there ended up being "my dad's cousin's ex-wife who attended the last family wedding" and "my mother's childhood friends who were at my child birthday parties and first communion" and "kids for my sister to have company" and more. The cost of inviting them was covered and the venue could hold them, so our choice to have a small intimate wedding with only people we both closely knew got pushed aside so that we didn't sour any relationships for our families. It's been the most stressful and upsetting part of our whole wedding process, nobody respecting what we initially wanted, but we couldn't get ourselves to say no (we are extremely disappointed in ourselves about it and wish we had stood our ground) but we hope that on the day of our wedding, we'll forget about money and numbers and meet new faces and simply enjoy that so many people wanted to be there celebrating with us. Admittedly not ideal and far from how we imagined our special day, but it won't change the fact that it's still going to be a happy occasion for us regardless. I know giving in isn't the popular decision — it's our wedding and we should do what we want! — but we could and did and we're just going to deal with it and try not to let it bother us for the sake of everyone being happy with us.

People are crazy. FH didn't invite a cousin he hasn't spoken to in 10 years, had no contact information for, and the last time they spoke, it was a huge fight that caused family drama for years.

She's now devastated that she's not invited and, of course, causing more family drama.

Do what you want, people get mad no matter what you do. If you think inviting them is dumb, don't do it.

People love drama... if I were them, I would keep my mouth shut and be happy I didn't have to drive 5 hours. You just have to weigh for yourself which you will regret more a year from your wedding... that you didn't invite them and maybe caused some drama, but stuck your guns and had the day YOU wanted... or that you did invite them to keep the peace and maybe shelled out more money than you were planning on.

We also wanted a really small, intimate wedding. I had a cousin absolutely flip out because he wasn't invited. We didn't invite any of our cousins, to avoid looking like we were picking favorites. I haven't seen him for 14 years and have only seen him a handful of times my whole life. People need to get a grip.

This is the only part of wedding planning that I've found stressful so far. First of all, it is rude of them to ask if they'll be invited. If you have never met each other and didn't receive an invite, I would think it's easy to assume you're not invited! I'm dealing with a similar situation - FMIL wants us to invite her and FFIL's friends that I've never met and that FH hasn't seen in years. Because our venue can only hold a certain number of people, she says we should cut our friends off the list to make room for their friends. According to her, the wedding is about them (her and FFIL), not about us, the bride and groom...umm what?! (btw, my parents and FH and I are the ones paying for the wedding). I say, don't invite them. You guys have never met them and it ends up being a choice between either spending extra money or cutting people you actually want at your wedding.