Quick Introduction

Hi!


I have tons of questions, but I thought I share a bit before I keep asking for suggestions.
23 years ago I was a 17 years old who got pregnant by my 22 years old boyfriend (now husband). We had no money, so I didn’t dare to ask for anything regarding a wedding. We signed the marriage certificate and 3 days later our son was born. Two years later, we welcomed our daughter. Then blessed with another son 8 years ago, as a bonus. So, our kids are 22yo, 20yo, and 8yo.
Marriage life was up and down. It obviously wasn’t easy for young parents, but we managed to raised our life standards from 0 without any help from parents, friends, or government. He works hard while getting his PhD, while I stayed home and raised the kids. We went from 1 tiny studio apartment, to owning a house with pool 9 years ago. We traveled to 32 countries, and never borrowed money.
However, we always had a problem. He was possessive and controlling, and I was way too submissive. The problem peaked 2 years ago and I filed for a divorce and left for weeks. Only then we realized, that we were so heartbroken as 2 separate individuals. He changed so much, my family and friends was impressed. After months, I decided to gave him another chance, and I feel very blessed that I love the new him so much more than before.
He proposed a few weeks ago, and we will renew our vow this July in Oahu! Just us and our kids, plus our adult son’s girlfriend of 3 years. I ordered my wedding dress, shoes, and veil. We have the event organizer. I wrote my vow-draft.
I secretly added some details to my wedding theme, which is Beauty and the Beast, because of so many similarities in our love story. I fell in love with him at ice skating, he was not romantic at all, he was often very rude, and only after I “ran away” he realized what he lost, and when I came came back I love him even more because he is not the “beast” anymore. He is now the loving and caring husband I always wanted.
Cheers!
~ Tale as old as time ~