Questions about Invites and Dates

Typically, invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Any longer than that, and you run the risk of people forgetting. Having said that, if you know you have a lot of out of town guests, you can certainly send them out sooner, like 10-12 weeks out. That's kind of why a lot of couples send out Save The Dates, so people have a longer time to plan time off from work, and travel. But the RSVP by date should be close to when you need to give your caterer/venue a final head count. Like a week or two before, in case you need to follow up with any guests who haven't responded.

Hi, date twin! We are doing save the dates. We plan on sending them by the end of next week. We discussed whether people would need more than 6-8 weeks notice, and made our decision based on that. We will send the formal invites during the 6-8 week time frame. Our RSVP date will be August 22. But something to keep in mind is when your vendors need a final head count. As far as the website, i put it on our save the date. I think putting in on you facebook event page would be alright. Good luck!

Hi date twin, we are sending our invites out by June 12th. We have a lot of out of state guests. Most are already getting their travel planes in place. My venue needs a final head count earlier than most 30 days out (not sure why, but just have to go with it).

I'm getting married a week before you and my rsvp return is the week before yours. I only left 3 weeks between the wedding and rsvp return and I notice alot of people are much longer, my venue doesn't need the final count until 10 days out, I feel better about my decision! I also sent save the dates so I feel 8 weeks is plenty for invites!

My venue doesn't need a final count until 5 days before, so I have a nice cushion between the RSVP deadline and when I actually need numbers. I do not want to be stressed out or watching the mailbox for RSVPs for too long. LOL And if I have to hunt people down, it will not be the week before. I want to be stress free the week of! Fingers crossed.

I'll go ahead and tackle the registry question! I don;t think you should post the registry on yur Facebook group.

However, you can definitely post a link to your wedding website in the group, which will directly lead guests to registry info. Include accommodation info and a q and a abut important information as well and make a post in the Facebook group like: "Hey everyone! We recently updated our wedding website to include some important information, check it out here!"

I agree posting your registry to the Facebook group/page is totally fine. Also feel free to add the registry to your wedding website and putting the website on your invitation is completely fine.

I wouldn’t send invitations out earlier than 12 weeks, I even think that might be too far. I think that’s why we send out Save the Dates, they should know from them whether they’ll need to request time off from work or not.