Questioning EVERY decision I make- stressful! Advice?

I have had the same problem! I like so many different things that it's hard to just pick one. I think you need to go with you gut. If you picked it, you picked it for a reason!

Sometimes I have that problem. I see all the bams and I think I should be doing things differently. Just remember why you chose those things in the first place. Don't continue to look after you have made your choices.

That's me as well! And what I hate is that everyone keeps bringing up things that I need to do but yet no one helps.

Can you get the voice of your Fiancé as well? That way you don't feel like it's just on you? We too went back and fourth on some things like our colors. We finally picked our colors and it was one of the last colors that we decided on. So if you're not completely happy with one thing keep looking until you are completely happy we'd say.

I have this problem too... lol. In the end it won't matter because would will have made up your mind and there's no going back

Same!! I hate being indecisive. It's the worst with wedding planning lol. No advice - just that I'm with ya!

I don't have much advice now...but I think as you get closer, you'll care less and less about the little details and just want to get married. That's where I am now. I'm much more decisive and in the process of simplifying everything because I've reached IDGAF status (I mean, I do care...but I care less about the little specifics).

I am the most indecisive person in the world but I am so surprised at how relaxed I have been with the decision making! My fiance helps out too which helps. Going with my gut with everything and realizing nothing is set in stone quite yet. I always ask vendors if things can be changed if I need to and everyone has said yes along with a timeline when they need final decisions. Sometimes planning other things helps with the things I was indecisive about.

Totally get this. I have no problems making decisions but then I see others' decisions and start to question mine. I'm going to wedding next week and I feel like I'm going to be wanting to change everything because I see something they did that I like.

Pick something and just go with it girl! You can always change small details later! Everything will be fine!

You might not understand this, but you're fortunate. I just read a thread, authored by a bride whose mother actually said, "You're dead to me". She followed it up with "Go F yourself", and then there was some verbiage about the bride being a child of the devil -- all of this horror over wedding planning. Why? Because mom disagrees with the way her daughter is planning her wedding.

In your world, nobody is doing that, and that takes all kinds of stress off of you.

If you're second guessing yourself, figure out why. According to you post, people are only giving you their opinions when you ask for them. That's what's complicating your planning. You're allowing the visions and ideas of others to challenge what you want. And, come on, if you're adult enough to say "yes" to the proposal, you're adult enough to plan and execute exactly what you want. You can do this.

Here's some good advice: You have every right to plan the wedding that you and your beloved want. You don't have to ask for opinions from others; in fact, if those opinions are the catalysts for you second guessing everything you've planned, then the answer is simple -- stop soliciting opinions.

You and FH are two unique individuals. You fell in love and intend to commit yourselves to each other until death parts you. You may create and raise children. You may see the blessing of grandchildren. That's huge. So, when the two of you are alone -- when you're talking about this huge event that marks the sealing of a personal commitment that signals the beginning of your legal union-- what does that celebration look like? It might be huge, in a marble floored, crystal chandeliered venue, or it might take place beside a lake with crickets in the background, followed by a very laid back reception. Start there....talk to each other...and stay there.

As long as you are giving your guests wine, great food, and great entertainment -- after inviting them to witness the most sacred moments of your life -- you're good, sweetie. The two of you should make your wedding what you want it to be. This is your day, and it should be filled with the choices that you know, in your heart, resonate with your personalities.

You can do this...of course you can.

I am the same way and I hate it. I think I have this unrealistic vision of what my wedding needs to have and if it doesn't have every little thing I get stressed, thanks Pinterest... No advice, just support.

WW helped a lot with my indecisive nature

I am so extremely indecisive as well and I can't stand it. Especially over decisions that are mostly irreversible. Every decision we've made so far, we have since changed our minds but are owning our original decisions. FH is better at making decisions in general, but for wedding planning his stance has always been "whatever you want ", which is nice but frustrating because my decisions are usually based on being considerate for others and trying to benefit everyone involved as a whole.

Could be worse, but I feel ya. Being indecisive is so annoying.

Go with your first gut feeling. And don't second guess yourself. Your wedding is going to be great no matter what, don't stress over the little things and ask your FH for help on the big things!

Once you make a decision, stop thinking about it. Move on to the next decision!

One of my best friends told me she read a study where as long as people had full autonomy in making a tough decision, they were very satisfied with it in the overwhelming majority of cases. People are generally only unhappy about decisions where too many other people's opinions were involved or they felt pushed into it somehow.

So go with your gut and your budget, take a deep breath, and then move on!