Question - Thank You Note to One Recently Widowed

Sounds right.

It might make her upset to see mail addressed to her deceased husband. I would keep it addressed just to her.

I think that makes sense, as well. I would address your sympathy in the note, but don't go too much farther than that.

I agree with PP. Just address it to her. I'd express your condolences again and maybe say something about how much it meant to you that he was able to celebrate your wedding with you.

I would address the card to her but I would definitely thank the the two of them. One of the most painful things in dealing with a partner's death is when people are afraid to mention them or say their name. The words and memories are comforting, not hurtful.

Thank her for the gift that she and her husband sent.

Thank you everyone for your input, its greatly appreciated!

If you can find a way to word it gently, you might also mention what special memories you will always have of the two of them dancing together (or whatever) at the wedding. My father-in-law passed away shortly after one of my husband's cousin's wedding. Thirty years later, my MIL still cherishes a photo of them taken at that wedding, as it was their last photo together. We had a similar experience when my mom passed away three weeks after one of her grandson's weddings. The photos from that day are especially meaningful to all of us. <3