NextChapterReady
Super October 2019

Question Regarding Priest and Unplugged Ceremony

NextChapterReady, on June 14, 2019 at 10:23 AM Posted in Planning 0 16
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So I got a call from the wedding coordinator for the Catholic church where we're having our ceremony. We went over a lot of the details and I mentioned that I wanted to have a notice in the program saying we want an unplugged ceremony without electronics. I also mentioned I wanted to ask our priest if he would make the announcement before the ceremony began, reminding guests to please silence and put away their cell phones. She seemed really upset by this and immediately said, "Oh no don't ask him that! There's no way he'll do it. Now if you want him to announce there is a reception somewhere following the ceremony at the end of the wedding, he'll do THAT. But no, absolutely he won't. Just put it in the program. EVERYONE reads the program. Don't ask him."

I was really taken aback by this. Number one, I've been to a number of Catholic weddings and I've seen priests do this, but also my priest is a distant cousin and friend of the family. This will be his last wedding, as he is retiring (and it feels really special that he is doing ours!) and I didn't think it was inappropriate to see how he would feel about doing this. Do you think I should go ahead and ask him at our next meeting? Or should I just put it in the program and leave it at that?

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  • FutureMrsD
    Rockstar July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    I don't see the harm in asking, the worst he can say is no!

  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    I would ask him directly. Even if it's something he doesn't normally do, being that he's related and it's his last wedding me may make an exception

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Thanks! I am still considering asking for sure! I honestly didn't see the harm! lol

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Yeah I thought it was weird she was speaking for him as well! He's never acted stuffy or offended over things before and is really nice, so I was taken aback!

  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Maybe she just doesn't like it. At my first wedding our minister made an announcement of no pictures during the ceremony without us asking

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    I hadn't thought of that, but maybe that's it! I have only talked to her twice over the phone, so don't know her too well.

  • Mandi
    VIP March 2020
    Mandi ·
    Ask him in person. He can say no. Apparently some people are offended by unplugged weddings, maybe that lady just happens to be one of those people.
  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Yeah another poster mentioned that as well. It's so weird to me that people would be offended by being asked to put away their cell phones in a church!

  • Kate
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kate ·

    I would ask! At my parish, the music director makes an announcement that everyone should silence their cell phones before Mass begins. I don't think you are asking for anything unreasonable.

  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    I'd just be polite, start by saying you'd like an unplugged ceremony and you'll be putting it in the program but was wondering if he'd be okay making a quick announcement at the start. The worst you'll get is a no.
  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Yeah! I feel like it's disrespectful for phones to be out during a religious ceremony, so I wouldn't think it would be out of the box to ask!

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    I think that's a very good way to bring it up! Thank you!

  • Katie
    Expert November 2019
    Katie ·
    I would ask him to make the announcement. My FH is having his best friend marry us and I will have either him or our DJ make an announcement before the ceremony starts to please put away all electronics and cameras for the ceremony per request of the Bride and Groom
  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney Online ·

    Ask him directly at your next meeting, it can't hurt.

  • Melle
    Master June 2019
    Melle ·
    I asked my pastor to do so. I dont see the issue with it. he is like the person that tells people to settle down and sit or rise so it's appropriate for him to say please silence phones
  • Amanda
    Dedicated March 2019
    Amanda ·

    I don't see the issue at all, at my Catholic church they make an announcement about keeping phones away before every mass.

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