Question for those married or planning during the pandemic

We had always planned to have a small wedding as we wanted only the nearest and dearest there to support us (about 35 people). We didn’t have to pivot too much because of Covid. For us it was about the marriage NOT the party. Of course it’s great to celebrate, we just chose to do with only a few and I couldn’t be happier!!! Good luck with your planning 😊

After we postponed, I lost a lot of enthusiasm as well. Now that we are 3 weeks away, a bit of it has come back.
We still have SO much to do since we suddenly had to change venues last week.

I felt deflated for quite a while thinking we were going to have to postpone, and feeling down about the day not being what we imagined. As we get closer, less than two months now, I’m just focusing on the important thing- we’re getting married! I feel like I’ve grieved the image I had in my head of how this was going to go, and now it’s down to final details. There are things I still wish were different, but this is the world we live in.
If you’re feeling really down about it, take a step back, take the space you need to take care of yourself. Planning a wedding can be stressful enough without doing it during a pandemic. I took several months off from planning when life threw me lemons, the time will pass either way, you can use it to get yourself in a better headspace or you can let yourself keep sinking.

I see that your wedding is in April 2021. How far have you gotten with planning? Is there a lot left that you have to do? Either way, if you’re stressed, I’d take a break from planning. It will be fine. Planning isn’t something that should consume each day or take up that much of your energy and focus every day. You have time to relax and simply enjoy life. Doing other things and not focusing on the wedding is healthy and doesn’t make you any less of a bride.

Mental health is a really big issue for quite a lot of people right now and quite understandably so! In some regards, life feels so similar to how it was before Covid, but in other ways, it has completely changed every moment of every day. We are no longer able to do things we had always taken for granted, and we’ve had to change our mindsets about many things we are still able to do. I personally feel like I have good days and bad days— sometimes feeling like I’ve adapted just fine and other days feeling like life is slowly falling apart. These are unprecedented times that none of us have prepared for in general, let alone thought we’d be planning a wedding in the midst of! While part of me is sad that the wedding we had so recently planned might not happen as we once thought it would, it’s also made me realize what parts are most important and what parts are extra “fluff” that I could do without.

Its definitely hard to feel excited about the planning process when you dont know if u can even have your wedding due to the ever changing situation. i just take it one day at a time thats all u can do

I’m so sad and depressed about my wedding. It’s supposed to be May 2021 (we got engaged Aug 19) and I’ve done nothing because I was putting it off because of the pandemic. Now with 4.5 months out I don’t even want to do it if I can’t have it the way I planned. It feels pointless to spend all the money if you can’t have it the way you imagined. Right now in CT we only would be allowed 25 people and my fiancé’s best man can’t even come because he is from CA.

I feel the same way. I am scheduled to get married May 2021. I postponed from May 2020 (we called it about 4 weeks before our scheduled day). I think it is hard to get excited because there is so much uncertainty and normal pre-wedding things aren't happening. I didn't have a bachelorette party (and probably won't) and can't really have in person planning sessions with my bridal party (especially since many aren't close). I also hate not knowing what I can do; I worry I will plan for a certain size wedding and the government will have restrictions that events have to be even smaller.

If you feel you can do it safely, doing trials (for your hair and makeup) and even doing an engagement session (or a mini session if you already did one). Concentrating on the elements that I can do is helping. Like being able to tweak flowers and figuring out steps to make thing safer -- we just started reviewing options for keeping everything outside instead of indoors.

Girl- I feel you. We cancelled our Vegas wedding back in June- so we decided in September to do a back yard wedding this upcoming June 2021 with 50 people. I am starting to think we need to make it smaller...that it may get cancelled AGAIN if this new covid variant come to the states...

Some days I'm low and sad. I think of everything going on and I just can't see the future enough to be positive. Even with making my minimony earlier than my big wedding, some days I'm discouraged.

But most days, I'm thankful. Planning honestly helps my anxiety and helps put me in a better mindset. It is hard right now but finding little joys will help overall. Where are you in your planning? Have you done any fun stuff yet?