Question bridesmaids

I guess my first question is what are you expecting from your bridesmaids this far in advance? If you are still this close with your new friend by next year there's plenty of time to ask her.

That is a tough question. Go with your gut. Since you have connected so well with her, I think I would ask her. It might encourage your other BMs to at least show a little more interest. Does everyone have their dress? I am happy you have found someone to be supportive.

I would absolutely ask her. If she's supportive and kind, that's the type of person you want to be standing with you to celebrate your day. Even if the other BMs have had certain responsibilities up to this point, as your friends, they should be excited and supportive that you have more people you care about enough to be included!

6 months before the wedding is the ideal time to ask everyone. Only those who you are super close to you. should be asked. If you are asking about fiancé’s cousin or sister and you don’t have a relationship with them, let them be a regular guest or they can stand with fiancé if fiancé wants them as attendants. Same applies to your own siblings standing on fiancé’s sides, who should be standing with you or being regular guests. Because they don’t have any responsibilities except getting clothes and going to the wedding and rehearsal, they don’t need to be asked earlier, and many posts in the search bar talk about friendships ending permanently because the wrong person is asked too early. . They are not required to be in a weekly group chat or plan the wedding for you. Make sure that you are very clear ahead of time before you ask as far as your expectations of them and any expenses they need to cover. Not everyone wants to be a bridesmaid because they may not find it enjoyable or they may not have the money you are requiring. That doesn’t mean they don’t like you but many prefer to be a regular guest having fun.


As for your existing bridesmaids, that is a consequence of asking people too early, asking the wrong person and/or having unrealistic expectations of them. Be gracious with them and step back and reassess whether the stress is justified or be prepared for the friendships to end if you ask them to step down.

I think you should definitely ask her to be your bridesmaid. If I were in your situation, I would want her to be part of my special day. 😊 I’m sure she would be honored and happy to be part of your bridal party.