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Savvy May 2021

Question About Wedding Officiant

Reagann22, on March 18, 2020 at 2:39 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 4
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So my uncle is a Baptist preacher and we are planning to have him marry us. He of course said he’d love to but that the three of us would have to have a talk and he would need to ask us some questions.
I asked my aunt about it and she just said “there are some things he needs to know about a couple before he can marry them”.
Can anyone tell me what these questions might be? Or maybe what they might be like? Has anyone else had to do this with their Officiant? I’m an awkward person so I’m overthinking this whole thing and it’s making me kind of anxious. Thank you in advance!! 💜

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Latest activity by Reagann22, on March 18, 2020 at 3:57 PM
  • Katie
    Devoted March 2019
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    In my opinion this could be one of two things (note: coming from someone who is not necessarily familiar with various religions)

    1. Some religions/churches/etc. require that couples complete marriage counseling or some variation before they can be married in that setting. These could be marriage counseling type questions...ex: what's your plan for finances, living together, are you able to communicate effectively as a couple, how you deal with conflict as a couple, etc.

    2. How well do you know your uncle? How well do he and FH know each other? This is such a personal experience for your uncle to be included and he may want to make some personal remarks or be able to tie in things that are important to y'all as a couple, so it'd be nice to have a little getting to know you time! Our officiant did the same thing for us and these were questions more along the line of: what are your core values, individual goals, goals as a couple, what does marriage mean to you, etc.

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  • Reagann22
    Savvy May 2021
    Reagann22 ·
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    Thank you so much for responding and taking the time to type that out, I really appreciate it!
    I’d say I know my uncle pretty well, he’s been a part of my whole life. My FH, he doesn’t know very well, they’ve only spent a few Holidays/celebrations together.
    And you’re so right, I didn’t even think about it like that I’ve just been so nervous lol. Again, thank you so much Katie!! You’ve definitely made me feel a little better lol
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    We for sure had a meeting with our pastor beforehand just to discuss the ceremony script but it could be because he wants to write a script that would be tailored to your story
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  • Reagann22
    Savvy May 2021
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    I would love that! I feel like I’m overreacting so much. Thank you for responding! ❤️
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