Question about “no kids”

Generally it’s either kids or no kids. Not some kids but not all kids. You have to make a decision. I have cousins who are kids also, but I decided have a kid free wedding was way more important than having my kid cousins in attendance.

If you dont care that your cousins on his side come or not, could you skip inviting them?

Circles are ABSOLUTELY fair game. It’s fine to invite all of your first cousins, and not include children of first cousins (2nd cousins, is it?)— it’s a totally different relationship and an easily clearly defined “circle”

I think either do all kids or no kids or someone will get upset.
Although sometimes if you have a flower girl and ring bearer people let those kids come only.

Ultimately it's your wedding and you invite who you want. We have people asking about it but our age cutoff is 15 with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer, who are both going home after dinner.

Just don’t invite them. There’s nothing wrong with inviting your cousins but not your other cousins kids.

Originally we planned on no kids and our flowergirl and ring bearer were the youngest we dared to invite (10) but a few of the newer moms said they were uncomfortable getting babysitters for their children so instead my fiance and I made a rule that if they were old enough that they could do most things by themselves (it actually states 5+) then we request you leave them with a sitter.
So to clarify: we think it's okay to go some kids as long as it's because the kids that are there couldn't be left at home.

View Quoted Comment This. Put any kids you really want in your wedding party (BM, flower girl, ring boy). And then make the rest kid-free.

Circles are ok too like nieces/nephews because still part of immediate family but no cousins.

View Quoted Comment I would honestly like to but my dad would be pretty upset. One is out of state so I’d hope saying her 1 and 3 year old can’t come will mean she won’t make the effort.

View Quoted Comment Yeah they’re my Hispanic relatives, so very close and I’ve babysat almost all of them

View Quoted Comment I considered that but my flower girl is out of state and has a little brother so there’s no way I can ask my aunt to bring one and not the other. Then at that point it’s like I can’t invite them 3 and not their cousins/primos (we’re Hispanic so cousins call each other brother and sister)

View Quoted Comment Also, can I ask what BM is?

So, your results may vary and we didn't had have a lot of kids anyway, but we invited people with kids and everyone is leaving the kids at home, even my cousins who are flying cross-country for the wedding. If there's airfare involved, they may not want to pay for the extra flights. If it's local, they may just want a night out. As I said, I may be an anomaly in this situation lol, but the only kids we are ending up with are the ones who are in the bridal party.

View Quoted Comment BM = bridesmaid.

View Quoted Comment Wow I feel like that was a dumb question. Is it obvious I’ve never planned a wedding before? Lol

View Quoted Comment Haha no worries. A lot of us haven't. You stick around this board and you get to know the lingo. I didn't know what BAM (back and married) meant for the longest time.

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No, that's true. Both would need to be in your wedding party.

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Yes, this.