Question About Bridesmaid Gifts

I think it's totally up to you! I love the idea of a handwritten card. Personally, I would try to avoid having everything be wedding-related (dresses, robes, etc) as their gift, and would instead shop for them as if it's their birthday or Christmas: what are their hobbies/interests? What things do you think they'd like? It doesn't necessarily have to be a physical gift, but you could be something such as treating them to a spa day, or out to dinner at their favorite restaurant. Since you've already bought their dresses and are paying for their hair to be done, you could just give them something small (such as a framed photo of you and them) along with the thank you note? I'm sure they will appreciate whatever you decide to do!

That is very generous of you, I would get them something small with a nice handwritten note instead of something lavish

I think that's a wonderful gift dresses and hair are expensive enough! What would you get them if you did get a physical gift too?

Honestly, I could care less about any sort of bridesmaid gifts I've received. I've got engraved flasks and glassware/tumblers, personalized little trinkets, etc. A handwritten note would be awesome. If you want to add a little something more, a framed picture of you together from aunt other point in your friendship would be nice.

I think buying their dress & paying for their hair is more than enough! That is extremely generous & thoughtful of you ☺️ I personally LOVE handwritten notes, and I think that is something they would cherish. If you do plan on getting them something else, I agree with the others - don’t buy anything they can’t use again (i.e. anything with “bridesmaid” on it, etc.); you’ll just be wasting your money!

This is totally fine! If you'd like to include a gift, I would do something small like a $10 starbucks or Target gift card for each girl in the nice note you're giving them. But not necessary in my opinion.

Honestly, I think just a card is plenty.

Buying their dresses and paying for their hair isn't really a gift. That doesn't mean it isn't generous, just that usually a gift is something that they will enjoy that doesn't have to do with your wedding. You aren't giving them the dress because they like it, you're giving them the dress so they can be in your wedding.

That said, I don't think you are obligated to get your bridesmaids gifts in the first place. A heartfelt card is plenty. If you are worried they also won't consider the dresses a gift and will feel shafted (they shouldn't), you could do something very small like a nice candle or bath bomb set or something. But I would not get anything elaborate.

I don’t think bridesmaids gifts are necessary. That said, I also don’t view the HMU and dresses as a gift as it’s not something they would have wanted otherwise. A handwritten card is fine.

Get a small gift that is related to their personal interests that is not wedding related and doesn’t have have names/date/titles that they will enjoy long after the wedding, plus a heartfelt card. While it is generous to pay for the dress, it’s not a gift to them that they can reuse.

Stay away from jewelry, robes, flasks, pjs, anything marketed as a bridesmaid gift. Shop like it’s their birthday.

I think the dresses and hair service are plenty!! You don’t really need to add anything else with the handwritten card honestly, but if you can afford it and want to splurge on them, go for it😊.

I think a handwritten card is a great idea. Maybe some small something that’s unique to them. I don’t view their dresses or their hair and makeup as a gift though. It’s incredibly kind for you to do that! But it’s not a gift for them to keep, as they wouldn’t have picked out those dresses unless they were in your wedding in the first place.

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Agree with this

I actually disagree with people who are saying the dress and hair services doesn't count as a gift. I think it absolutely does! If I were a bridesmaid and the bride were paying for my dress and hair, it would mean so much to me and I would absolutely consider that gesture a gift. Especially since it sounds like you let them each pick out their own dress and they won't have to pay anything to be in your wedding. In fact, I would prefer this over a smaller physical gift that I may or may not use or have picked out myself. Yes, they wouldn't pick out a bridesmaid dress if they weren't in your wedding, but if you weren't paying for it, they would be buying one anyways and be out a couple hundred dollars. Saving that amount for them is a tremendous gift, especially for those of us who struggle financially. I think a handwritten card is a beautiful touch and wouldn't get any more than that!

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I agree with this!

Honestly if you paid for my dress and my hair that’s plenty for me. And a handwritten card just is like a cherry on top.


I think that’s a good enough gift for them.
If you feel like it’s not enough for some reason (being a bridesmaid/maid of honor is an honor itself) maybe a small gift card or a small gift like a bracelet or something. I don’t really think it’s necessary in my opinion. Dress can be reused for a party or something like that. My MoH picked her dress cost like $30 or so can be used again for another party.