Question about best man and groomsmen?

Well if encourage him to at least ask the out of state friend, the worst he can say is no. Otherwise, I don't think there's really much you can do, he gets to pick his own party or lack there of.

*sigh* yeah I was afraid of that ugh.. I told him that he HAS to at least have a best man...I think it would be weird if the entire wedding party is all my friends and family... He has friends, he just says there isn't anyone worthy of the role/title of best man....

I have the same situation with my FH. I'm not pushing him to ask anyone. I have 3 bridesmaids and if he is uncomfortable asking anyone because he doesn't feel close to them then thats fine with me. He says he will ask at least 2 people but I do feel terrible about him feeling the need to do that. More than likely in time your FH will have someone to ask, but don't push him because he probably feels awful about not feeling close to anyone.

He says the last time he asked a friend to be his best man (he has been married twice before) he no called no showed to his wedding and his dad had to step in, he says there isn't anyone as of yet to be worthy of the role/title best man and he's not asking anyone until he feels like there is, if ever.

My FH is in that same boat. He feels bad about it when it's brought up and idk what to do either :/

He should ask his friend. FH is the same. I have 5 bridesmaids and he has three groomsmen but one of them is my brother. And the two other groomsmen are his brother, and his best friend who lives on the other side of Canada. His best friend and his girlfriend are coming from Vancouver to Buffalo so it is definitely worth a shot asking because if they really are best friends they'll do it if they can.

Date twin! Hopefully he will ask his friend. I actually am only having my 9 yo niece as my maid of honor and no other bridesmaids, and my fiance is having a best man and 3 groomsmen. I feel for him because of what happened before, but I think he would want at least one person. I'm surprised he doesn't want his sons.

What about just skipping on the bridal parties altogether?

Your FH doesn't *have* to have anything if he doesn't want to. Why are you forcing this on him? Oh right, because it's been your dream for 20plus years. Here's the thing about weddings: you need to let go of "what you've always dreamed of" and be more realistic when things simply won't work that way. Don't have people standing by you, or him, just so you can have X number of people and your dream can be complete. Have those people with you because you want to have them. Uneven sides are fine. What you really want for him should be what he really wants for himself.

Sounds like my FH! He ended up asking his best friend (who lives close to us) and two sisters. His best friend and his younger sister were both excited and thrilled. His older sister was a negative nancy but we didnt feel right asking one sister and not the other.

My FH BM is coming in from across the country and a groomsmen is coming from out of the country. It doesn't hurt for him to ask the people he really wants to be in it to come. The worst they can say is no.

If he truly is a loner then let him be. If you think he is just worried about people bailing on him then try talking to him about it. If the friends from out of state are good enough to be BM, then they are probably good enough to not bail last minute.

My FH has one really good true friend that is his best man. Other than that, he asked his brother and took a few more months (far too long) to land on asking his sister to stand with him. He has friends but not many worthy of a title like that to him.

I don't really have this issue, our wedding is small. My FH has his brother and his sisters bf by his side. His dad can be his best man. Does he have a good relationship with him?

The BM and groomsmen have nothing to do with you. So, as much as you may have some sort of "vision", if your FH isn't on board, it's not going to happen. I'm a social butterfly compared to my FH, I'm having two people in my BP, I don't know if he's going to pick anyone yet. I guess by the time our wedding day comes around, we'll have it figured out.

He can even all his dad to be best man if that's an option

Your dream isn't his dream. Let him do what he wants.

Or hire pros.

What about asking his dad again? Your dad? All his sons? He doesn't have to have a best man, but no groomsmen at all?

I couldn't bring myself to have bridesmaids if DH didn't have groomsmen. Sides don't have to be even, but 4-0 seems like putting it out there in a very public way that FH doesn't have friends.

For our wedding, DH had more people than I did. I chose 3 bridesmaids, my other 3 were his sisters, and he picked his groomsmen (2 friends, his brother, and his 3 sisters' husbands). It really wasn't a big deal

Definitely encourage him to ask his friend, even if he's out of state, and his son, at the very least.

Is your FH depressed? This seems like a red flag for me.

@MrsSki(to be) that's exactly my point, I'm ok with him being a loner, obviously, or I wouldn't be marrying him. But me having a MOH or two and bridesmaids and him having not even one to stand with him? It just feels weird? And lonely I would think. I just always thought both partners should feel excited and have people to share that with.

@Lillybean17 obviously I can't force him to do something and I wouldn't really try to. Even though he is more of a loner he has people he can ask, he just doesn't want to. And I do want what makes him happy but when we talk about the wedding/planning he says he wants me to have whatever makes me happy and if it comes down to it then I'll just end up with my bridal party. I actually didn't know the sides could be uneven until I joined this community lol

I realized after joining here I didn't really know anything about weddings like I thought I did. I just had a vision of what it would be like but since I never felt like I would be able to get married and have one I never really gave it as much thought, till now.

Maybe it's just me over thinking everything, I do that often. To me it would feel weird if the roles were reversed, if he had people standing with him and I didn't have any, I feel like I would feel lonely not having any friends or family there to share it with me...

At the end of the day I know it's not as big a deal to him because all he cares about is marrying me and that makes me happy, that's all I care about. I just thought I would ask everyone if it's uncommon for the groom to not have any at all but the bride does or if it would be weird to have it that way... Thank you all for the responses

Just got married Friday and this happened to my husband. Not one friend showed up. They could've at least called to say they weren't gonna make it. Sorry asses it what I said. I felt bad my husband had not one male there to have his back.