Question about +1's

I wouldn’t allow a plus one for a 16 yod. They aren’t there to hang with friends. My cousin isn’t brining.

She is 16, she doesn’t need a friend especially at a very small wedding. I’m have 170 guests and no one under the age of 18 are getting plus ones. When I was 16 I would never imagine my high school boyfriend coming to an extended families wedding especially a small intimate one.

Thank you both for your responses. I thought that 18 seemed like a good cut off age. I know the wedding couple both feel a little odd about having 2 people they have only met twice (for her) and 4 times (for him) at a wedding of about 20 people.

I wouldn’t invite a plus one for a child.

I would say no, it’s a very small wedding, it doesn’t sound like anyone else is bringing a +1, and she’s 16, she can deal. If it’s that big of an issue she doesn’t have to go.

He may be invited, but would usually not be, for a 16 year old. Entirely up to you.

I would think no one under 18 gets a plus one is a pretty universal concept. As you said, she would not he entitled to her own invitation. Children are usually attached to their parents' invitation, so they do not get extra guests.

When I was 16, I attended a wedding of my mother's cousin. A cousin of mine (nephew of the groom, age 16) brought his girlfriend. I found that so strange.

Alternatively, my fiance's youngest brother has a girlfriend. Since it's my fiance's brother (super close relative, obviously), and they have been dating almost as long as we have, and we see her quite often, she is invited. She probably doesn't even technically fall into the "plus one" category.

You are well within your rights not to let her bring a date. However, will it really hurt that much to include one extra person? IMO, I'd just let her bring her bf and not stress over it. BUT I know not everyone can be accommodated, so that is completely your choice.

No, just no. She's not even an adult and it's an intimate family affair essentially.

Thank you all for your responses. Yes, we could add one more person, but in such a small group an extra person is very obvious, not lost in a crowd of 200 people.

The wedding is at a BNB treehouse, and is small. Adding even one person can make the event space feel crowded. The event space holds 20, and we already have 21.

No. No need to invite.

No not at all omg. I wouldn't allow that unless I had a ton of space.

I have an EXTREMELY similar wedding scene to yours. 6 families will be there, with a few stragglers. I am trying to put myself in your shoes. If one of my brothers wives had a child who I didn't really know and wanted to bring a date...at that age, even if the relationship was "Serious" (which it doesn't sound like it is), I wouldn't allow it with a small wedding, +1s I'd go engaged or married only with something so small. Even if she were older. I wouldn't think they would even bother to ask, I'd be annoyed if they did for a 16 year old girl.

I don't think a plus one is necessary since she is only 16 and going with her parents.